Abesifazane Abagijima Nezimpisi
Sizithola singaphambi kwe-eseyi ejulile emema ukuhunyushwa kabusha kokuhlangenwe nakho kowesifazane ngokusebenzisa izinganekwane ezidumile, ubuciko kanye nemvelo ukuze sixhumane nalolo hlangothi lwasendle olusikhuthaza ukuthi sivuthwe futhi sifune inkululeko.
UDkt. Clarissa Pinkola Estés , uchwepheshe waseJungian kwi-Ethnoclinical Psychology , wachitha iminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi amabili ebumba lo msebenzi othakazelisayo osondla ngolwazi lwakhe olujulile, ehlanganisa isiko lomlomo lezindaba kanye nezimpawu eziningi, ngenhloso yokukhuthaza ukukhula kwangaphakathi kwabesifazane.
Kusukela kulo mbono, akumangazi ukuthi imisho encwadini ethi Women Who Run With the Wolves ingumthetho walabo "izimpisikazi" abafuna ukuzitholela okubenza bazi ukuthi bangobani ngempela futhi ngaleyo ndlela bafakazele ukubaluleka kwabo.
Umbhali wayo ukusho kahle, ebhekise eqinisweni lokuthi abesifazane banqunyelwe amaphethini ahlukahlukene wezinzalamizi. Ngenxa yezilwane ezidla ezinye ezisidalele amanxeba emiphefumulweni okuthi kwesinye isikhathi sizuze ngisho nefa kokhokho bethu.
Siyamangala ukuthi kule ndaba kukhona kanjani umhlahlandlela weqiniso, imephu esivumela ukuthi sithwebule ngekhasi ngalinye, ulwazi oludingekayo ukuze sixhumane nalowo wesifazane wasendle, onenkanuko futhi onothando ongaba nguye ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulelwa abanye. .…
Imiphi imishwana esingagqamisa kuyo Abesifazane abagijima nezimpisi?
Imisho encwadini ethi *Women Who Run With the Wolves* isinikeza imibono ehlukene. Eyokuqala ukuthi, ngisho nangempilo yethu eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, sihlala siyizilwane, izidalwa zasendle. Abesifazane, ngandlela thile, abalangazelela nsuku zonke ukubuyisa leyo nkululeko yokhokho, ukuzizwa bephila, ukuthola indawo yabo kuleli zwe elicindezelayo nelinamarobhothi.
Iphuzu lesibili, elibaluleke ngempela futhi elibalulekile, futhi ngokuhambisana noClarissa Pinkola Estés , ukuthi ngaphakathi kwabesifazane bonke kukhona amandla amakhulu. Ebuntwini bethu bangaphakathi kuhlala isethi yemizwa, ubuciko, intshisekelo, nolwazi olungapheli oluye lwalahleka ngezinye izikhathi phakathi kwezisekelo nezindinganiso zomphakathi wanamuhla. Akungabazeki ukuthi lokhu kuwukubonakaliswa okujulile okusishiya silangazelela ukubona ukuthi uhambo lwakhe luzoletha ini.
Njengoba sekushiwo konke lokhu, ake sibuyekeze imishwana eyisithupha, izingcezu eziyisithupha ezincane kodwa ezijulile ezizosimema ekuzicabangeni okwengeziwe.
1. Yiba nguwe
“Ukuba yithina kwenza sigcine sidingiswa abanye abaningi. Nokho, ukuthobela lokho abanye abakufunayo kusenza sizikhiphe kithi.”
Lesi sisho sikhuluma nathi ngesibindi sokuba yithi kunoma yisiphi isimo, kunoma yisiphi isimo, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi singobani phambi kwakhe, sihlale sithembekile kubunikazi bethu. Ngakho-ke, kufanele sibuyele ku-primordial, kulowo wesifazane oxhumene nohlangothi lwakhe lwasendle ongavumelani nalokho okumisiwe, ngezithango ezizama ukonakalisa inkululeko yakhe, ephika ukukhula komuntu siqu.
2. Ukuhamba kusivumela ukuthi sihlangane futhi
“Nakuba ukudingiswa kungeyona into efiselekayo ukuze ujabule, kunenzuzo engalindelekile kukho: ziningi izipho zokudingiswa. Ikhipha ubuthakathaka, yenza ukuncwina kunyamalale, yenza ukubona okubukhali kwangaphakathi, ikhulise umuzwa, inikeze amandla okubuka okungenangqondo. ”
Ukudingiswa bekuhlale kunezincazelo ezingezinhle, nokho namuhla kubandakanya kakhulu ukukwazi ukuzihlukanisa nempilo yethu yansuku zonke ukuze sibhekane nesizungu sethu, ukungaqiniseki, kanye nokungajwayelekile futhi kusinika amandla amasha. Njengoba nje kuhilela ukuhlukana namaphethini amadala, nesimo sendlela esikhuliswe ngayo, ukuze sisebenzele ebuntwini bethu bangempela.
Ukudingiswa kumayelana nokuzihlukanisa naleso sigaba sethu esiboshiwe, sivumele owesifazane wasendle ongaphakathi ukuba avele. Ngokusobala, lokhu kuba umbono ongavamile ofihliwe emakhasini afudumele encwadi ethi * Women Who Run With the Wolves*.
3. Imiphumela yokungazithandi
“Indlala yethu yokuthandwa imfihlo ayinhle neze. Ukungalusebenzisi kwethu nokulusebenzisa kabi uthando akukuhle. Ukuntula kwethu ukwethembeka nokuzinikela akubonisi uthando, isimo sethu sokwehlukana nomphefumulo sibi, ziyizinsumpa zengqondo, ukwehluleka kanye nemicabango yengane.
Ezindimeni eziningana ezivela encwadini ethi *Women Who Run With the Wolves* , umbhali uqhathanisa ukuziphatha kwabesifazane nokwezimpisi. Ngaphakathi kwalesi sigaba, sithola ukugxekwa okuvusa futhi kucacise ukuthi naphezu kokuxhumana kwethu nohlangothi lwethu olubi, asikwazi ukumane silimaze abanye ngenxa yokuntuleka kokulawula okuvela ekucindezeleni izifiso zethu ezimnyama kakhulu. Kumelwe siqaphele ukuthi singobani nokuthi sibaluleke kubani ukuze singabalimazi ngokungazinzi kwethu.
Imiphumela yokungazithandi ibuhlungu. Isenzo sokuzama ukuphila sibheke lelo ngaphandle, lapho sizama khona ukuhambisana nemodeli yowesifazane ohlale engowokwenziwa, ipulasitiki, i-homogeneous, futhi ethobela abanye, isiholela ekungajabulini nasekudabukeni kobuntu bethu.
Ngakho-ke kufanele sibheke imvelo njengoba kwenza okhokho bethu, ukuze singawenzi amaphutha afanayo esikhathini esizayo. Kufanele sikwazi ukuphinde sithole ukubaluleka kwethu namandla asondlayo futhi asenza sibe namandla.
4. Uthando lweqiniso
“Uthando oluphelele luwuchungechunge lokufa nokuzalwa kabusha. Sidedela isigaba esisodwa, ingxenye eyodwa yothando, bese singena kwesinye isigaba. Umdlandla uyafa futhi uyabuyiswa."
Kuyahlekisa ukuthi uthando lwaziwa kanjani njengokuphela kwamandla avame ukuhlala unomphela. Kulo musho, umbhali usitshela iqiniso elingakhululekile, uthando alulula kangako; Yakhiwe izinyunyana ezahlukene kanye nokuhlukana kancane kancane ukwakha uhlamvu lwethu.
Kungagcizelelwa ukuthi akukho okubaluleke ukwedlula ukuhlakulela ukuzethemba, siyakwazi. Nokho, kamuva sifunda ukunikeza abanye okungcono kakhulu ngokwethu. Siyathanda ukwakha ubudlelwano bezithandani futhi noma kunjalo lokho akusho ukuthi konke kuzohamba kahle ngokuphelele.
Ngokufanayo, uthando luphinde lube yilawo mandla akhuliswayo ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Siziguqula esigabeni ngasinye sokuphila kwethu sibe abantu abasha, ngezinye izikhathi abangabonakali kulokho esasiyikho futhi ngokulandelayo, siguqula nabanye.
Yile ndlela esisuka ngayo ekushisekeleni, siye ekujuleni, bese siya ekuvuthweni okukhulu, lapho ngezinye izikhathi, ngemva kokuhlukana, uthando oluvuselelwe nolunamandla nakakhulu ...
5. Shaya phansi
“Izwe elingcono kakhulu lokuhlwanyela nokutshala into entsha futhi iphansi. Ngalowo mqondo, ukushaya phansi kwetshe, nakuba kubuhlungu kakhulu, kuphinde kube indawo yokuhlwanyela.”
Ingabe kukhona okubi kakhulu kunokwesaba ukushaya idwala? Ngolimi lokulalelwayo nokubonwayo, ngisho kubhalwe endaweni ezungezile, imindeni yethu yesaba kakhulu ukuwa, akekho obonayo noma ofuna ukubona ukuthi kungaleso sikhathi ngaso leso sikhathi, lapho nje ufika phansi lapho ungabona khona ngempela lapho owenze khona iphutha, amaphutha akubuyisele emuva kancane kancane waze wawa futhi ngaleyo ndlela udedele lawo matshe bese udweba indlela engcono, eyodwa enethezekile futhi isebenza kahle... Emaphutheni avela emisebenzini emikhulu kakhulu ivela kancane kancane waze wawa.
Lokhu ngokungangabazeki kungenye yemisho emihle kakhulu encwadini ethi Women Who Run With the Wolves, futhi kumema ukucabanga ukuthi, nakuba kungelula, kuyadingeka ekukhuleni kwethu nasekuxhumaneni nalolo hlangothi lwesilwane oluhlala lucindezelwe futhi olubona ukukhanya kuphela kulezo zikhathi zokungaqiniseki.
6. Ukukhula kwangempela
"Uma siphila njengoba siphefumula, singena futhi sidedela, ngeke senze iphutha."
Umgwaqo ongabuyi, yaziwa kanjalo impilo. Siyizidalwa ezifunda kancane kancane njengoba sihamba, futhi naphezu kwamaphutha esingawenza, kufanele siwafanise futhi siqhubekele phambili. Lesi sisho asisho ukuthi asisoze sawenza amaphutha, kodwa kunalokho ukuthi uma sithatha lezo zithiyo ezincane njengalokhu eziyikho... okuhlangenwe nakho, sizokwazi ukuqhubekela phambili ngobuqotho.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, asikwazi ukukhohlwa ukuthi ulwazi lwethu luyi-cyclical. Masikhumbule ukuthi ukuze sisinde kufanele sihlanganise nezinguquko, futhi kuzona kufanele senze ingxenye yethu.
Okokugcina, okuqoshwe encwadini ethi The Women Who Run With the Wolves kuyisibonelo esincane kodwa esifushane salezo zifundo zasendulo, ukuzindla, izindaba namasiko kanye nezinye izinto ezinhle ezisisiza ukuthi siqhubeke sikhula.
“Impisi, isalukazi, lowo owaziyo, singaphakathi kwethu. Iqhakaza ku-psyche ejulile yomphefumulo wabesifazane, i-Wild Woman yasendulo futhi ebalulekile. Uchaza ikhaya lakhe njengendawo ngesikhathi lapho umoya wabesifazane kanye nomoya wezimpisi uhlangana khona. Yindawo lapho mina nawe siqabulana khona, indawo lapho abesifazane begijima nezimpisi (...)”.
-Clarissa Pinkola-
Manje, uma ukujabulele lesi sihloko, sikumema ukuthi uhlole isihloko sezincwadi ezingokomoya , eziqukethe izinhlobo eziningi zokufunda ezingabonisa ngokwengeziwe ukuzithanda nokuzihlola.
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