Amagama esiwasebenzisayo kubantwana bethu angaba nomthelela ekuzethembeni kwabo nasekukhuleni kwabo ngokomzwelo impilo yabo yonke. Uma uke wazibamba usho imishwana owayizwa ebuntwaneni bakho, awuwedwa. Ezikhathini zokukhathala, ingcindezi, noma ukungajwayeli, siqala ukukhuluma okuzenzakalelayo okungaba yingozi kakhulu kunalokho esikucabangayo.
Ukuba ngumama noma ubaba akuwona umsebenzi olula, futhi akekho okunikeza imanuwali, kodwa kusezandleni zethu ukuhlonza nokugwema imilayezo ethile engemihle. Ukushintsha le misho ibe eyakhayo kuyisinyathelo esincane, esikhulu esiholela ekubeni umzali oqaphelayo, onenhlonipho, nonozwela. Lapha Sibuyekeza kahle imishwana eyingozi kakhulu, umthelela wayo nezinye izindlela ezisekelwe ebufakazini obungokwengqondo nolwazi lwezemfundo.
Kungani kubaluleke kangaka ukuqaphela amazwi ethu nezingane zethu?
Imizwelo yezingane nokuzicabangela kuyakhiwa, futhi lokho ezikuzwa kubazali bazo kuba yingxenye yezingxoxo zabo zangaphakathi. Abaqondi nje kuphela incazelo eqondile, kodwa futhi bezwa inhloso, iphimbo, kanye nemvamisa yamazwana. Ukuthi "ungakhali" okulula kungenza bazizwe sengathi ukuveza imizwa akulungile. Ukuqhathanisa nezingane zakini noma abangani kungatshala ukungazethembi okuqhubekayo. Ngakho-ke, igama ngalinye libalulekile, ngisho nangokwengeziwe lapho liphindaphindwa njalo.
Ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi izinkulumo eziningi zansuku zonke zilulaza ukuzethemba kwezingane, ugqozi nokuzethemba.Ngaphezu kwalokho, siyazi ukuthi ubuntwana nobusha kuyizigaba ezibalulekile ekuthuthukisweni kwamakhono angokomzwelo, ezenhlalo, nawokuqonda. Ukuxhumana nezingane zethu kufanele kusekelwe ekuhlonipheni, ekuqineni nasekuzweleni., ukubasiza bakhule njengabantu abazimele nabazethembayo.
Imishwana UNGALINGE uyisho ezinganeni zakho (kanye nezinye ezinempilo, ezakhayo)
1. “Qaphela”
Ukuhlale ucela izingane ukuthi ziqaphele kungafaka ukwesaba noma ukungavikeleki kuzo, futhi kuziphazamise lapho nje zidinga ukugxilisa ingqondo kakhulu. Nakuba inhloso kuwukubavikela, lesi sisho asibasizi ukuthi bafunde bebodwa. Esikhundleni sokubanikeza isexwayiso esijwayelekile, zama "Ngikhona uma ungidinga"Ngale ndlela, uqinisa ukuzimela kwabo futhi ubanikeze ukuzethemba bazi ukuthi bayabasekela.
2. "Ake ngikusize" / "Ngivumele ngikwenze"
Bajwayele ukuvikela izingane ngokweqile, Ngokuhlala uxazulula izinkinga zabo, ululaza ukuzethemba kwabo futhi uthumele umyalezo wokuthi abakwazi ukwenza ngokwabo. Okubalulekile wukukhuthaza ukuzimela kwabo. Faka esikhundleni le mishwana "Ufuna ukuzizama wena? Ngikhona uma udinga usizo." noma “Ucabanga ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani?” Ngale ndlela, uyabasiza ukuba bathuthukise amakhono okuxazulula izinkinga futhi uqinise ukuzimela kwabo.
3. “Wenze kahle, kodwa ubungenza kangcono” / “Bekufanele wenze kangcono”
Ukwengeza okuthi “kodwa” ngemva kokudumisa kuphazamisa umzamo wengane futhi kugxilisa umbono wokuthi akwanele. Lo mkhuba ungababangela ukuthi bahlobanise ukugunyazwa nokusebenza, hhayi umzamo noma inhloso. Kungcono ukusho “Ngiyithandile indlela okwenze ngayo, futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi uzoqhubeka nokuthuthuka ngokuprakthiza.”Ngale ndlela, uqinisa ingqondo yokukhula futhi ubakhuthaze ukuthi baqhubeke bezama ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwenza amaphutha.
4. "Ungakudli lokho noma uzokhuluphala."
Ukukhuluma ngesisindo ngendlela engalungile ebuntwaneni kunemiphumela elimaza kakhulu ukuzethemba kanye nobuhlobo nokudla. Esikhundleni sokugxila ekubukekeni komzimba, khuthaza ukufunda ngokudla okunempilo: “Kuhle ukujabulela lokhu kudla ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa ukudla okusinika amandla amaningi okudlala nokufunda yilokho okunempilo.”Ngale ndlela uthuthukisa imikhuba emihle futhi uvimbele ukubukeka kwama-complexes.
5. “Akubalulekile kangako” / “Yeka ukuba ingane” / “Umbhedo lowo”
Ukwenza imizwa yezingane ingasebenzi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ibukeka mincane kangakanani ngokombono wethu, kuyenza ibe nomuzwa wokuthi azikwazi ukuveza imizwa yazo ngokukhululekile. Ukulalela ngentshiseko nokubonisa uzwela kubalulekile: “Ngitshele ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, ngikhona ngizolalela.” noma “Ngiyaqonda ukuthi lokhu kubalulekile kuwe. Uyafuna ukukhuluma ngakho?” Ngale ndlela, uqaphela imizwa yabo futhi udale isikhala sokwethembana nobuhlakani bemizwa.
6. “Kungani ungafani nomfowenu?” / "Bheka ukuthi umngane wakho ukwenza kanjani"
Ukuqhathanisa, ngisho nangezinhloso ezinhle, kudala imibango, ukucasuka, nemizwa yokungafaneleki. Yonke ingane ihlukile futhi kufanele ikhule izizwa yaziswa lokho eyikho, hhayi ngalokho okwenziwa abanye. Kungcono ukugqamisa inqubekelaphambili yabo ngabanye, isibonelo: "Ngiyithanda kakhulu indlela okwenze ngayo lokhu, wenze umzamo omkhulu kukho." noma “Wonke umuntu unamandla akhe, okubalulekile ukuthi uthole awakho.”
7. “Uma wenza lokho, ngeke ngikuthande.” / "Ngiyagula ngawe."
Uthando lomzali kufanele lungabi nemibandela, nemishwana ephakamisa lokho Ungalahlekelwa uthando ngenxa yokungaziphathi kahle zilimaza ukulondeka okungokomzwelo kwengane. Shintshela ku “Uma wenze njalo ngizophatheka kabi ngoba akulungile, kodwa ngiyohlezi ngikuthanda.”Ukuziphatha kungalungiswa ngaphandle kokungabaza uthando noma ukusebenzisa imilayezo yokulahla imizwa.
8. "Ngizokubhaxabula" / "Ungangikhulumisi kanjalo noma ngizokushaya ngenqindi ebusweni"
Ukujeziswa ngokomzimba noma usongo lobudlova kudala ukwesaba, intukuthelo, futhi kufundisa abantu ukuxazulula izingxabano ngokusebenzisa amandla, ngaphezu kokululaza igunya lobukhosi. Chaza kangcono imiphumela ecacile: “Uma wenza lokhu futhi, kuzofanele sikhulume ngemiphumela.”Kubalulekile ukubeka imingcele ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ubudlova noma ukululaza.
9. “Uma uqhubeka kanje, uzozuza” / “Uma ungakwenzi lokhu, ngizokujezisa”
Izinsongo ezingenalutho noma ezingacacile azibeki imingcele ecacile futhi zidale ukudideka, futhi zilulaza ukwethenjwa kubazali. Kunalokho, chaza imiphumela ngokuningiliziwe: "Uma upenda odongeni futhi, ngeke ukwazi ukuya epaki kule mpelasonto."Izingane zidinga imithetho engaguquki kanye nemiphumela elinganayo ukuze zifunde ngempela.
10. “Ungakwenzi lokho”
Vele uthi "ungakwenzi lokho" ngaphandle kokuchaza ukuthi kungani noma ukunikeza ezinye izindlela Kushiya izingane zingenazo izinsiza zokwenza kahle. Kusebenza kangcono kakhulu ukuphakamisa ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha: "Ungapendi odongeni ngoba kuba nzima ukukuhlanza ngemuva kwalokho. Nali ishidi ozodweba kulo."Ngale ndlela ubafundisa ukuqondisa kabusha amandla futhi ubheke izixazululo.
11. “Inkinga yakho, uyayilungisa” / “Uma bekushaya, uyashaya”
Le misho ingakwenza izingane zinomuzwa wokuthi azikwazi ukuthembela kubazali bazo lapho benenkinga nokuthi ubudlova bamukelekile ukuxazulula izingxabano. Lalela kuqala okwenzekile futhi ubasize bathole izixazululo: "Kwenzekeni? Ake sicabange ndawonye ukuthi ungaphendula kanjani ngokuzayo."Ngale ndlela, ukhuthaza ukuzimela kwabo, kodwa uyababonisa ukuthi bangaphendukela kuwena ukuze bathole ukwesekwa.
12. “Buza umama/ubaba wakho”
Ukudlulisela umthwalo wemfanelo wezinqumo komunye umzali kungadala ukudideka futhi kubukele phansi igunya lomzali oyedwa. Into enempilo kakhulu ukuphendula ngaleso sikhathi, ubonise ubunye: “Ngingakusiza unqume, futhi uma kunesidingo, singaxoxa ngakho ndawonye.”. Ukuvumelana nokukhulumisana phakathi kwabazali bobabili kubalulekile.
13. "Ngiyeke" / "Ngeke ngisakwazi ukuhamba nawe"
Amagama anjengalawa, ikakhulukazi uma ehambisana nokumemeza noma izimpawu zokwenqaba, angalimaza ukuzethemba kwengane. Uma uzidinga isikhashana, chaza ngomoya ophansi: “Manje kuzomele ngiyiqedele lento, uma nje sengiqedile sizokhuluma ngomoya ophansi.Ungakwazi ngisho nokuphendukela endleleni yokurekhoda ephukile, uphinda umlayezo ngomusa baze bawufake ngaphakathi ngaphandle kokuthukuthela.
14. “Ungakhali” / “Kulungile” / “Asikho isidingo sokwesaba” / “Ungabi ingane”
Ukwenqabela ukukhala noma ukuxosha ukwesaba kwenza imizwa yezingane zakho ingasebenzi futhi kungazibangela ukuba zicindezele imizwa yazo. Ukukhala kuyinto evamile futhi kuyadingeka ukuze ukhulule imizwa. Kungcono ukubasekela futhi ubasize babone ukuthi bazizwa kanjani: "Ufuna ukungitshela ukuthi kwenzenjani? Ngikhona ngizokusiza noma nini lapho uyidinga."Ngale ndlela, ubafundisa ukuthi ukuveza imizwa akuyona nje imvelo, kodwa kunempilo.
15. “Ungumfana omubi” / “Uya…” / “Uyivila/uyaxaka/ungcolile”
Ukulebula izingane kuqinisa kabi lokhu kuziphatha futhi kulimaza ngokujulile ubunikazi bazo kanye nokuzethemba kwazo. Esikhundleni sokulebula, khuluma ngokuziphatha: "Angiyithandi lento oyenzile, singayilungisa kanjani?"Ngale ndlela, uhlukanisa ukuziphatha kumuntu futhi umnikeze amathuluzi ukuze athuthuke ngaphandle kokuzizwa enesici.
16. “Funda kumfowenu” / “Buka umzala/umngane wakho”
Ukuqhathanisa akulokothi kukhuthaze ngempela futhi kudala ukuncintisana kanye nomuzwa wokunganeli. Kungcono ukuqondisa umlayezo ekubonweni komuntu ngamunye: “Wonke umuntu unokuthile okukhethekile, ngifuna ukukusiza uthole ukuthi yini ekwenza uhluke.”. Ukukhuthaza ubuntu kuqinisa ukuzethemba.
Indlela Yokwakha Ukuxhumana Okuhle Ekhaya
Yamukela ukuthi ukwenza amaphutha kuyingxenye yokufunda, kokubili izingane kanye nabazali. Okubalulekile wukuvuma amaphutha bese uwalungisa. Ukucela intethelelo uma wenze iphutha kuyisibonelo esibaluleke kakhulu kubo.
Akukhona ngokuqeda imithetho noma ukuvumela, kodwa mayelana ukuxhumana ngenhlonipho nangokuqina. Chaza izizathu ezibangela umkhawulo ngamunye futhi ulalele imibono yezingane zakho, ikakhulukazi phakathi nenkathi yokuthomba. Bonisa ukuzimisela ukuxoxa, ukuqinisekisa imizwa, kanye Ukubekezela kubalulekile ekuqiniseni ubudlelwano nasekufundiseni ngesibonelo.
Ulimi oluhle, uzwela nokuhambisana phakathi bobabili abazali bayasiza ekudaleni indawo kuphephile lapho izingane zingakhula ngokuzethemba nokulinganisela ngokomzwelo.
Qaphela ukuthi izinkulumo ozisebenzisayo nezingane zakho akulula ukuzilawula ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi lokho kulungile. Okubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele futhi ufune ukuthuthukisa, kusukela Ukukhulumisana ngenhlonipho nothando kwakha izibopho eziqinile futhi kukhuthaze inhlalakahle engokomzwelo.
