El Imitha yobudlova isibe ngelinye lamathuluzi aziwa kakhulu futhi asebenza kahle kakhulu ukubiza lezo zenzo ezivame ukufihlwa njengothando, isithakazelo, noma isivikelo, kodwa empeleni eziwubudlova. Kulula njengombusi ongamasentimitha angu-30, kodwa umthelela wawo ufinyelele ezikoleni, emindenini, ezindaweni zokusebenza, nakubantu babo bonke ubudala emazweni ahlukene.
Nakuba kungase kubonakale sengathi kuyinto elula, imitha yobudlova Ifingqa iminyaka yocwaningo, ubufakazi, kanye nomsebenzi wokuvimbela ubudlova.Ikuvumela ukuthi ubone ngokushesha ukuthi ukuxhashazwa kukhula kanjani, kusukela ekuziphatheni abantu abaningi abakubheka “njengokujwayelekile” kuya ekuhlaselweni okungathi sína ngokomzimba nokubulawa kwabesifazane. Futhi ikwenza lokho ngolimi olucacile, olufinyelelekayo, noluqondile, isiza noma ubani ukuthi abone ukuthi ubhekene noma uqhuba ubudlova.
Iyini imitha yobudlova futhi isetshenziselwani?
Imitha yobudlova izinto ezinemifanekiso nezifundisayo ngesimo sombusi Iveza amazinga ahlukene obudlova ebudlelwaneni babantu, ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni bothando. Yavela njengendlela ebonakalayo yokuchaza ukuthi ukuhlukumeza akuqali ngokushaywa, kodwa kunalokho kuvame ukwanda ngenxa yesimo sengqondo nokuziphatha okuya ngokuya kuba yinto evamile.
Inani layo elikhulu liseqinisweni lokuthi Kuyasiza ukuqaphela izimpawu ezivame ukuncishiswa.Lezi zenzo zifanelekile noma ziphanjaniswe nokubonakaliswa kothando. Izinkulumo ezilimazayo, amahlaya anonya, ukusongela ngokomzwelo, noma umona oqhubekayo kuvame ukubhekwa njengengxenye yobuhlobo, kanti empeleni kuyizinhlobo zokuhlukumeza ngokwengqondo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, imitha yobudlova Akusizi nje kuphela emkhakheni wezemfundoIsetshenziswa futhi emndenini, emsebenzini, nasemphakathini. Noma yibuphi ubudlelwano obuhilela ukulawula, ukuhlazeka, noma ulaka bungaqondwa kangcono ngaleli thuluzi, elisikhuthaza ukuthi sihlole indlela esixhumana ngayo nabanye.
Isici esibalulekile siwukuthi Ukuziphatha okuvela kumitha yobudlova akuhlali kulandelana.Akuphoqelekile ukuthi umuntu adlule kuzo zonke izigaba; angase eqe ezinye noma ukuziphatha okuthile kungaxutshwa. Isibonelo, umuntu angase aqale ngamahlaya ahlazisayo futhi, ngaphandle kokudlula ekuhlaselweni okuncane ngokomzimba, akhuphukele ngqo ezinsongweni ezinkulu.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, imitha yobudlova ibuyekeziwe yaba faka izinhlobo zobudlova ezihlobene nobuchwepheshe bedijithaliNamuhla, ukuhlola ifoni yomlingani, ukumhlukumeza ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, noma ukwabelana ngokuqukethwe okuyimfihlo ngaphandle kwemvume kuyizindlela ezivame kakhulu zobudlova, futhi ithuluzi lihlanganisa lezi zindlela ukuze zihlale ziwusizo esikhathini sedijithali.
Umsuka wemitha yobudlova: kusukela ku-IPN yaseMexico kuya emhlabeni wonke
Imitha yobudlova yazalelwa eMexico, e- I-National Polytechnic Institute (IPN)Ngenxa yomsebenzi womcwaningi UMartha Alicia Tronco RosasUneziqu zobudokotela kwezeFilosofi kanye nezeSayensi Yezemfundo futhi ungumsunguli we-Institutional Program for Management with a Gender Perspective e-IPN. Lokho okwaqala njengephrojekthi yangaphakathi manje sekukhulele emazweni amaningi futhi sekuhunyushwe ngezilimi eziningana, kusukela kuMayan kuya ku-Italian, Basque, kanye nesiShayina.
Konke kwaqala lapho uTronco ekhuthaza ukudalwa kwe- iyunithi yobulili ngaphakathi kwe-IPNWaphawula ukuthi ososayensi besifazane babenamathuba ambalwa okuthuthuka kunabozakwabo besilisa nokuthi babengenazo izikhundla zobuholi. Ngokudala indawo ethile yokusebenza ngokulingana, izinkinga ezazingabonakali ngokuphelele zaqala ukuvela.
Abantu abaningi baqala ukumshiya izincwadi ezingaziwa ezichaza izimo zokuxhashazwaAbafundi abahlushwa ubudlova babalingani, abasebenzi abahlukunyezwayo, abaphathi abanokuziphatha okuhlukumezayo… Lezi zikhalazo eziyimfihlo kodwa eziqhubekayo zibonise ukuthi ubudlova busakazeke kakhulu kunalokho obekucatshangwa ngaphambili.
Ephendula, uTronco wanquma ukuthuthukisa inhlolovo enkulu phakathi kwabafundi abangaphezu kuka-14.000 Abafundi abavela emazingeni aphakathi naphezulu e-IPN bahlolwe. Izihloko ezihlanganisiwe zazihlanganisa impilo, ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa, ukukhulelwa kanye nokuba ngumzali ongahleliwe, kanye nobudlelwano obunobudlova. Okuwukuphela kwesidingo sokubamba iqhaza kwakuwukuba nobudlelwano bothando okungenani obubodwa ngonyaka odlule.
Imiphumela yavusa wonke ama-alamu: Amantombazane nabafana abaningi babalandisa ngezenzo zobudlova ngaphandle kokuzibona njengezinjalo., into ehlobene umsuka wokuxhashazwaImibono efana nokuthi “unomona, kodwa kancane nje,” “ngezinye izikhathi uyangicindezela, kodwa akukubi kangako,” “uhlola ifoni yami ngezikhathi ezithile,” noma “uyangicindezela ngokudlala” yayivamile. Lezi zimpendulo zabonisa umbono osakazekile wokuthi, uma kukhona uthando, izinhlobo ezithile zobudlova ziyamukeleka.
KuTronco, inkinga eyisisekelo yayicacile: Ubudlova babufihlwa njengesivikelo, ukunakekelwa, noma uthandoFuthi lokho kwenza kwaba nzima kakhulu ukukubona. Yingakho isidingo sokudala insiza elula, engabizi, nesebenzayo ezovula amehlo abafundi, othisha, nanoma ubani oyibona edeskini labo, ekilasini, noma ehhovisi.
Indlela Umthetho Wemitha Yobudlova Owaklanywa Ngayo
Umklamo wemitha yobudlova waqala ngomqondo olula kakhulu: irula ledeski elingamasentimitha angu-30 lokho kungasetshenziswa empilweni yansuku zonke futhi bekungeke kugcine kudoti. Isentimitha ngalinye lalihlanganisa okunye kokuziphatha okuvele ocwaningweni, okuhlelwe kusukela kokuncane kakhulu kuya kokubi kakhulu.
Ukuze kube lula ukuqonda, umthetho uhlukaniswe ngezigaba izingxenye ezinemibala emithathungayinye ehlotshaniswa nezinga lokuqapha. Ngale ndlela, umuntu obukayo angabeka okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe (noma ukuziphatha kwakhe) ngaphakathi kwesilinganiso esisukela kwesicashile kakhulu kuya kwesiyingozi kakhulu.
Ku ukwelula kuqala Lesi sigaba sihlanganisa ukuziphatha okungahileli ubudlova obuqondile ngokomzimba, kodwa okubangela ukulimala kwengqondo noma ngokomzwelo. Lokhu kufaka phakathi izenzo ezifana nokwenza amahlaya alimazayo, ukuhleka usulu, ukuqamba amanga, ukulawula ukuthi ubani okhuluma naye noma ukuthi uyaphi, kanye nomona oqhubekayo. Abantu abaningi babona lokhu kuziphatha njengokungabalulekile, kodwa kancane kancane kunciphisa ukuzethemba kanye nenkululeko yomunye umuntu.
El umlenze wesibili Kuhlanganisa izenzo zobudlova eziqala ukubonakala ngokuqondile, nakuba zivame ukungabhekwa njengobudlova obukhulu: ukuphula izimpahla zomuntu siqu, ukusunduza, ukushaya, ukuncinza, ukudonsa, noma ukushaya ngempama. Lapha, kusobala ukuthi ukuhlukumeza kuhumusha kanjani kube yizenzo zomzimba, yize umhlaseli evame ukuthethelela ngokuthi "kwakuwukufutheka okukhulu" noma "ingozi."
El isigaba sesithathu Lokhu kuhlanganisa izimo zobudlova obukhulu ngokomzimba kanye nezinhlobo zobudlova obukhulu kakhulu. Lokhu kuhlanganisa izinsongo ngezinto noma izikhali, izinsongo zokufa, ukuphoqelelwa ukuba nobuhlobo bobulili, ukudlwengula, kanye, ekugcineni okukhulu, ukubulala noma ukubulala abesifazane. Kulesi sigaba, ubuqotho bomzimba, ngokomzwelo, kanye nobulili busengozini enkulu, futhi kubalulekile ukufuna usizo ngokushesha.
Kubalulekile ukukugcizelela lokho Akudingeki uxoxe ngayo yonke imininingwane ukuze ukhulume ngobudlova.Umuntu angahlala emazingeni okuqala okulawula ingqondo iminyaka eminingi noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, asheshe athuthuke abe ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokocansi okukhulu. Isihluthulelo ukuqaphela ukuthi, kusukela ekuqaleni, kuwubuhlobo obuyingozi.
Ubudlova empilweni yansuku zonke: lokho okwakungabonwa njengobudlova
Enye yeminikelo emikhulu kakhulu yesilinganiso sobudlova ukuthi Kwenza izinhlobo zobudlova ezibonakalayo ezivame ukunganakwa. empilweni yansuku zonke. Abesifazane abaningi, kanye nabesilisa nabo, bakhule bezwa ukuthi umona uwuphawu lothando, ukuthi kuyinto evamile ukuba umlingani wakho abe nombono ngezingubo ozigqokayo noma oxhumana nabo, noma ukuthi amahlaya athile "amane nje ayizinto ezimbalwa."
Isilinganiso sobudlova sikwenza kucace ukuthi ukuhlasela ubumfihlo, ukuhlola omakhalekhukhwini, ukufuna amaphasiwedi ngokufuna, noma ukuvimbela abantu ukuthi babone abantu abathile Lezi akuzona izimpawu zesithakazelo, kodwa kunezindlela zokulawula. Ngokufanayo, ukuthukwa, ukugconwa esidlangalaleni, ukuqhathanisa okulimazayo, noma ukunganakwa okuhleliwe kwehlisa isithunzi samasu okuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, aqede ukuzethemba.
Emazweni afana neMexico, lapho ubudlova bobulili buyinto engavamile iqiniso elisakazeke kakhulu futhi eliyinkimbinkimbiLeli thuluzi libe nomthelela othile. Ukubulawa kwabesifazane kuyinkinga enkulu kakhulu: izibalo ezahlukahlukene ezisemthethweni zikhombisile ukuthi abesifazane abaningi bafa ngobudlova nsuku zonke, futhi abaningi balaba bafa bandulelwa uchungechunge olude lokuhlaselwa okuvamile.
Kodwa usizo lwemitha yobudlova alugcini nje ngobudlova basekhaya. Kuphinde kusize ukubona izindlela zobudlova emndenini, emsebenzini, noma emibuthanweni yabangane.Umqondo ofanayo wokulawula, ukuzihlukanisa, kanye nokuhlazeka ungavela phakathi kwabazali nezingane, phakathi kwabaphathi nabasebenzi, noma phakathi kwabafundi ofunda nabo.
Ngemuva kwakho konke lokhu kukhona okwaziwayo iziqondiso zobulili kanye nezindimaLokhu kufundwa ebuntwaneni futhi kuqiniswa nsuku zonke. Kufundiswa, ngandlela thile, ukuthi eminye imiyalo kanti eminye iyalalela, ukuthi amadoda kufanele alawule futhi abesifazane kufanele bamukele. Egameni lothando, ukuphoqelela kuyathethelelwa ukuthi, empeleni, kuyizenzo zobudlova.
Amazinga amathathu emitha yobudlova nemibala yawo
Ukuze kusizwe noma ubani ukuthi abone ukuthi ulwazi lwakhe luwela kuphi ngaphakathi kwesimo sakhe, i-meter yobudlova sebenzisa isikali sombalaKufana nesibani sethrafikhi, yize amanye amamodeli efaka nezinga lokuqala eliluhlaza. Lokhu kubhala ikhodi kwenza kube lula ukuhlanganisa ukuziphatha ngakunye nezinga lengozi kanye nesidingo sokusabela.
Izinguqulo ezivame kakhulu ezikhulunywa ngazo amazinga amathathu ayinhloko: oluhlaza okotshani, ophuzi nobomvuNgayinye ihlanganisa izinhlobo ezithile zokuziphatha bese iphakamisa uhlobo lwempendulo okufanele ithathwe (khuluma, cela usizo, funa usizo lochwepheshe, iya emaphoyiseni, njll.).
Ku izinga eliluhlaza Lokhu kufaka phakathi izinhlobo zobudlova obungokwengqondo ezivame ukunganakwa: amahlaya abuhlungu, ukuphawula okuhlazisayo, ukusongela ngokomzwelo, ukulawula okucashile amashejuli noma inkampani, noma ukuziphatha okufana nokulandelelela omunye umuntu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Ngisho nangaphandle kobudlova obungokomzimba, lokhu kusaphula inhlonipho nokuzimela.
El izinga eliphuzi Lokhu kubonisa ukuthi isimo siya siba sibi nokuthi kufanele kuthathwe izinyathelo eziphuthumayo. Lesi sigaba sihlanganisa izimo zengqondo ezifana nokusola njalo umlingani, ukumkhohlisa, ukumsongela ngokumsongela ngokumshiya noma ukuzilimaza, kanye nokuqala kobudlova obungathí sina ngokomzimba noma ngokocansi. Okunye okufakiwe kulesi sigaba... ucansiOkusho ukuthi, ukusongela ngezithombe noma amavidiyo ayimfihlo.
Ku izinga elibomvu Umuntu usevele usesimweni esiyingozi kakhulu. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukuhlaselwa ngokomzimba okukhulu, izinsongo ngezikhali, ukudlwengula, ukuzama ukuklinya, ukulimala okukhulu, futhi, esimweni esibi kakhulu, ukubulala abesifazane noma ukubulala. Kuleli qophelo, Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuvikela nokubikangoba impilo isengozini.
Le ndlela yokuhlela ukuziphatha iyasiza ukuqonda ukuthi Ayikho into efana nobudlova “obuncane” noma “obungenangozi”Noma yisiphi isenzo esifuna ukulawula, ukuhlazisa, ukwesabisa, noma ukulimaza siyingxenye yenkinga efanayo. Ukukubeka esikalini akuhloselwe ukunciphisa ukubaluleka kwalokho okwenzeka endaweni eluhlaza, kodwa kunalokho ukukhombisa ukuthi, uma kungamiswa ngesikhathi, kungakhuphukela kanjani endaweni ebomvu.
Udlame lwedijithali kanye noMthetho we-Olimpia
Ngokwanda kobuchwepheshe, imitha yobudlova ifakiwe izinhlobo zobudlova ezenzeka ngamaselula, amanethiwekhi omphakathi kanye ne-inthanethiLokhu akulona isengezo esincane: namuhla, ukulawula okuningi kanye nokuhlukumeza kwenziwa ngeziteshi zedijithali, ngokuvamile njalo futhi yonke indawo.
Lezi zindlela zokuziphatha zifaka phakathi ukuqapha ngokweqile imisebenzi yezokuxhumanaUkubukeza izingxoxo ngaphandle kwemvume, ukufuna ukuthi wonke amaphasiwedi abelwane ngawo, ukugcwalisa imiyalezo yokulawula ukuthi umuntu ukuphi nokuthi unobani, noma ukushicilela okuqukethwe okuhlazisayo ngaye.
Enye yezinhlobo ezimbi kakhulu zobudlova bedijithali ucansiUkusongela ukusabalalisa izithombe noma amavidiyo ayimfihlo ukuze uthole okuthile (imali, izithombe ezengeziwe, ukugcina ubuhlobo, ukwenza umuntu abe nohlobo oluthile lokuziphatha). Lolu dlame seluxazululiwe kakade ezinguqukweni zomthetho ezifana nezaziwayo I-Olympia Law eMexico, okuvikela ekusakazweni kokuqukethwe okuyimfihlo ngaphandle kwemvume.
Iqiniso lokuthi imitha yobudlova yengeze lezi zindlela zokuziphatha libonisa ukuthi Ithuluzi lihlala lisesikhathini futhi lixhunywe eqinisweni lomphakathiUbudlova abugcini nje endaweni ebonakalayo; bungena ezingxoxweni, ezindabeni ze-Instagram, emaqenjini emiyalezo, nakunoma iyiphi indawo yedijithali lapho kunobudlelwano bamandla obungalingani.
Kwabancane, abachitha ingxenye enkulu yempilo yabo yokuxhumana nabantu ku-inthanethi, Ukuqaphela ubudlova bedijithali kubalulekileAkuyona "into evamile" ukuthi othile akuphoqe ukuthi umthumelele izithombe zobulili obuyimfihlo, akuphoqe ngokuqukethwe okuyimfihlo, noma akwenze uzizwe wesaba njalo uma ifoni yakho ivuliwe.
Kungani kunzima kangaka ukubona ubudlova?
Esinye sezicabango ezinamandla kakhulu ezixhumene nesilinganiso sobudlova ukuthi Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuqaphela ukuthi ubhekene nobudlovaKunezici eziningi ezihilelekile: uthando oluzwayo ngomunye umuntu, ukwesaba ukuba wedwa, amahloni okukhuluma ngakho, noma umqondo wokuthi "lokhu akunakwenzeka kimi."
UMartha Tronco uqhathanisa ubudlova no umswakama okhula odongeniEkuqaleni, akukho okubonakalayo, mhlawumbe ibala elincane nje, into enganakwa noma emboziwe. Kancane kancane iyasakazeka, futhi ngesikhathi umuntu efuna ukusabela, ibala selimboze lonke udonga. Ngokufanayo, abantu kancane kancane bafaka lokho okufunwa ngabalingani babo, bayeke phansi, balahle izinto, kuze kube yilapho ngolunye usuku bengasazazi bona.
Kulokhu kungezwa lokho Ukuzizwa unamahloni kuyinto evamile kakhuluAbesifazane abaningi abaziboni njengezisulu; bacabanga ukuthi bayeqisa, ukuthi mhlawumbe yiphutha labo, noma ukuthi abanye abantu basesimweni esibi kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umphakathi uyaqhubeka nokusola isisulu ("Kungani singahambi?", "Kungani sikuvumela?") esikhundleni sokugxila kumenzi wobubi.
Esinye isici esibalulekile ukuthi Ubudlova akuvamile ukuvela ngokuzumayo ngesimo salo esibi kakhulu.Ngokuvamile kuqala ngendlela ecashile: ihlaya elicasulayo, ukuphawula ngendlela ogqoka ngayo, "Angithandi ukuthi ukhulume nalowo muntu," ukuqhuma komona okuthi kamuva kuqedwe isenzo sothando. Lena yindlela ubuhlobo obakhiwa ngayo lapho isisulu sigcina singabaza ukwahlulela kwaso.
Yingakho imitha yobudlova igcizelela ukubaluleka kokwenza ukuzilolonga komuntu siqu ekuzazini nasekubukezeni ubudlelwanoUkuzibuza ukuthi yini oyibekezelelayo, yini oyijwayezayo, yini oyiphindayo ebudlelwaneni bangaphambilini noma emvelweni yomndeni wakho, kungaba yinto engakhululekile, kodwa kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokuhlukana nemikhuba yobudlova.
Umthelela wemitha yobudlova kanye nokwanda kwayo emhlabeni jikelele
Kusukela yasungulwa, imitha yobudlova idlule imingcele ye-IPN kanye neMexicoNamuhla ingatholakala ezikoleni, emanyuvesi, ezikhungweni zezempilo, ezikhungweni zomphakathi, nasezinhlanganweni zomphakathi emazweni afana neChile, iVenezuela, iSpain, neShayina, phakathi kwamanye. Kuye kwaklanywa nezimo ezithile zamasiko ahlukene.
Ukuhumusha kwenziwe kwaba izilimi ezahlukene njengesiMaya, isiNtaliyane, isiBasque, noma isiShayinaInhloso ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umyalezo ufinyelela abantu abaningi ngolimi lwabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezinye izinhlangano zivumelanise okuqukethwe ngokusekelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho kwazo ngabasindile odlameni olusekelwe ebulilini, zilungisa izibonelo kanye nokuvezwa kwazo ukuze kuhambisane nesimo sendawo.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, le phrojekthi iholele ekutheni amanye amathuluzi ahambisanayoIzinguqulo zesilinganiso sobudlova zenzelwe ukukhuthaza ukuzindla hhayi nje kuphela ngokuthi umuntu ubhekene nobudlova, kodwa futhi nokuthi uyabenza yini. Ngokusekelwe kulokhu, izinhlelo zokusebenza zeselula kanye nezinsizakusebenza zedijithali zidalwe, okuhloswe kakhulu kubantu abasha.
Umthelela uye wazwakala ngisho nasezintweni ezincane zansuku zonke: ogogo bacela amamitha obudlova kubazukulu baboIzikole ziyayisabalalisa njengesipho sokuphela konyaka, futhi izinkampani ziyayifaka emikhankasweni yokuqwashisa yangaphakathi. Kancane kancane, isibe uphawu olubonakalayo lokulwa nobudlova ebudlelwaneni.
Emhlabeni jikelele, idatha ikhombisa ukuthi ubudlova obubhekiswe kwabesifazane buyinto esakazeke kabanzi: I-UN Women ilinganisela ukuthi cishe oyedwa kwabesifazane abathathu Emhlabeni, owesifazane oyedwa uke wabhekana nodlame olungokomzimba noma ngokocansi oluvela kumlingani wakhe, noma udlame olungokocansi oluvela kumuntu ongaphandle kobudlelwano, okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe. Ngo-2023, kwalinganiselwa ukuthi abesifazane namantombazane abangaphezu kuka-51.000 babulawa ngabalingani babo noma amanye amalungu omndeni emhlabeni jikelele.
Ukuqaphela ubudlova kubalulekile ukuze kumiswe.
Ubudlova buvame ukuhlotshaniswa izithombe ezimbi kakhulu: ukushaywa okubonakalayo, ukudlwengula, ukubulalaKodwa-ke, esimweni sobudlova basekhaya noma bomlingani, inkinga ivame ukuqala kusenesikhathi, ngemininingwane abantu abaningi abangayiboni njengobudlova.
Imitha yobudlova yenzelwe le njongo ngqo. ngeso lengqondo leyo nqubekela phambili esuka ekuzihlukaniseni nasekulawulweni iye ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzimba nangokocansiUkuziphatha okusekelwe ekuncishisweni kwenani, ukusola, noma ukusongela ngokomzwelo kungase kubonakale kubekezeleleka ekuqaleni, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kudala isimo esiba nzima kakhulu ukusibalekela.
Ukuqonda lokhu kukhula kubalulekile ukuze "ukuyeka ukushaywa" lapho sisesemazingeni okuqalaUma ubona ukuthi umlingani wakho ulawula ngokweqile, uhlazisa, uhlekisa, noma uhlasela ubumfihlo bakho, sekuyisikhathi sokucela usizo, ukukhuluma nomuntu omethembayo, ukuya ezinkonzweni ezikhethekile, noma ukushayela ucingo izingcingo zosizo zezisulu zobudlova.
Kuyisihluthulelo futhi ukuqeda umqondo wokuthi Uma umlingani wakho enomona, ekuvimbela, noma ekushaya, kungenxa yokuthi uyakuthanda.Le nkolelo ejulile ifaka isandla ekubuyiseleni ubudlelwano obuyingozi esimweni esijwayelekile. Uthando akufanele neze lumlimaze, lumesabise, noma lwenze omunye umuntu azizwe engaphansi kwalokho.
Ngokombono wokuvimbela, imitha yobudlova Ivumela lezi zihloko ukuthi zidingidwe ezikhungweni zemfundo, ezinhlanganweni, nasezindaweni zomphakathi.ukusiza intsha kanye nabantu abadala abasebasha ukuthi babone izinkinga kusukela ebudlelwaneni babo bokuqala. Uma lokhu kutholakala ngokushesha, kuba lula kakhulu ukukuyeka.
Ukubaluleka kokubandakanya amadoda nokwamukela ukuhlukahluka
Esinye isici esibalulekile esilethwa phambili umsebenzi kaTronco, kanye nowezinye izinhlangano eziningi, yisidingo sokuthi ukuhlanganisa amadoda engxoxweni ngobudlovaAkwanele ukukhuluma ngabesifazane kuphela njengabangase babe yizisulu; kubalulekile ukuthi amadoda abukeze amamodeli abo obudoda kanye nendlela abasebenzisa ngayo amandla ebudlelwaneni.
Ezifundweni zokufundisa kanye nezifundo eziphathelene nokuba ngumzali, isibonelo, umbuzo olula kakhulu ubuzwa: "Uyafuna ukuba njengobaba owawunaye?"Kwabesilisa abaningi, lolu daba luvula igebe elikhulu; bayaqaphela ukuthi abafuni ukuphinda ukumemeza okufanayo, ukushaywa, noma ukungabikho ababhekana nakho beseyizingane, nokuthi badinga amathuluzi okuzihlanganisa namadodakazi namadodana abo ngendlela ehlukile.
Kubalulekile futhi ukukhuluma ngakho ukuhlangana kobudlovaAkufani nokuba ngowesifazane omhlophe onemfundo ephakeme kanye nezinsizakusebenza zezimali njengoba kunjalo nokuba ngowesifazane womdabu, othanda abesifazane abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, ongafundile ohlala ebumpofwini. Izinhlobo zobudlova, izithiyo zokufuna usizo, kanye namathuba okushiya ubudlelwano obuhlukumezayo kuyahlukahluka kakhulu kuye ngalezi zimo.
Izibalo zomhlaba wonke zibonisa ukuthi, endabeni yamadoda, Amaphesenti amancane kuphela okubulala okwenzeka endaweni yangaseseNakuba kwabesifazane namantombazane, ukubulala okuningi kwenziwa ngumuntu emndenini wakhe. Lokhu kwembula indlela ehlelekile yobudlova obusekelwe kubulili, obuhlobene nokungalingani kwamandla okugxilile.
Ngakho-ke ukusebenza ngemitha yobudlova kusho ukuthi, ukungabaza imikhuba, amasiko, kanye nemibono ezuzwe njengefaKuhilela ukuhlola kabusha indlela esifunde ngayo ukuthanda, ukuphikisana, ukubuza, kanye nokuvumelana. Futhi kudinga ukuzibophezela okuhlangene: imindeni, izikole, izikhungo, kanye nemiphakathi kumele konke kuhileleke ekushintsheni la mamodeli ukuze izizukulwane ezizayo zingaphindi amaphethini afanayo.
Isilinganiso sobudlova sifingqa sibe umthetho olula, imephu yonke yezindlela zokuziphatha ezazingaqashelwa ngaphambilini futhi namuhla ezingabizwa ngamagama, zixoxwe futhi zibhekane nazo. Ukubiza ubudlova kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuyeka ukububhekana nabo.Ukukubeka esikalini kusenza sikwazi ukukubona ngokucacile, senze izinqumo, futhi sicele usizo ngesikhathi. Nakuba ulwazi lodwa lungashintshi iqiniso, luhlanganiswe nokusekelwa komphakathi, amanethiwekhi okunakekela, kanye nezinguquko ezakhiweni zamandla, luba ithuluzi elinamandla lokwakha ubudlelwano obukhululekile, obunenhlonipho, nobuphephile.
