Cabanga okwesikhashana lapho uvula amehlo akho bese konke empilweni yakho kuhlangana kahle.Indlu obulokhu uyifuna, ubudlelwano obukulethela ukuthula, umsebenzi okushukumisayo, ngisho nekhofi elisanda kuphekwa elikulindile etafuleni lokulala. Kuzwakala kumnandi, cishe njengokuthile okuvela ebhayisikobho. Kodwa umbuzo oyisisekelo yilo: uma konke lokho kwenzeka, ubungakwazi yini ukukujabulela ngempela, noma ingabe ingqondo yakho ingabe izozulazula ngokushesha kulokho okusadingeka ukufeze?
Siphila emasikweni asishukumisela njalo ukuba sifune okwengeziwe, okungcono, futhi okusheshayoFuthi kulolo chungechunge olungapheli, kulula ukulahlekelwa umbono ngento ebalulekile: ukwaneliseka akuveli ekuqongeleleni izinto, okuhlangenwe nakho, noma impumelelo, kodwa ngokufunda ukwazisa lokho osekuyingxenye yempilo yethu kakade. Ababhali nochwepheshe bengqondo nemizwa njengoPaul McKenna, uMarisa Peer, noma ngisho amazwi efilosofi akudala Bonke bayavumelana ngento efanayo: injabulo iphekwe ngaphakathi, ngezindinganiso, ukubonga, kanye nendlela entsha yokubheka iqiniso lansuku zonke.
Kusho ukuthini ukuphila ngezindinganiso nomphefumulo?
Ukukhuluma “ngezindinganiso nomphefumulo” akukhona ngemisho emihle yokulengisa odongenikodwa kunalokho izimiso zangaphakathi eziqondisa ngempela lokho okucabangayo, okuzwayo, nokunqumayo empilweni yakho yansuku zonke. Lezo yizimiso amandla omlingiswa —njengokubonga, ukungaguquguquki, ubuqiniso, noma uzwela— lezo ezinikeza incazelo kulokho okwenzayo ngale kwemiphumela yangaphandle.
Ukwazisa lokho onakho akusho ukuthi uzohlala phansi noma uzoyeka imigomo yakho.Kunalokho, kumayelana nokushintsha indlela ocabanga ngayo: esikhundleni sokuhlala ucabanga ngentaba kuphela, ufunda nokujabulela indawo enhle endleleni. Ungaqhubeka nokukhula, uphuphe kakhulu, futhi uthuthuke, kodwa ngaphandle kokuthatha kalula lokho okukhona empilweni yakho namuhla.
Ochwepheshe abanjengoPaul McKenna bachaza ukuthi ingqondo isebenza njenge-radarKuvame ukugxila ngokuzenzakalelayo kulokho okungahambi kahle, ezinkingeni noma ezinsongweni ezingaba khona. Le ndlela yayiwusizo kakhulu lapho kwakudingeka ukubaleka izingozi zangempela, kodwa namuhla ihumusha njengokukhathazeka njalo ngama-imeyili angaphendulwanga, imisebenzi elindile, noma okulindelwe emphakathini okungenakwenzeka.
Isiphakamiso siwukuqeqesha kabusha leyo radar yengqondo ukuze ibone nokuthi yini eseyilungile kakade.Izibopho ezikusekelayo, izikhathi ezincane nezijabulisayo, impumelelo yakho, impilo yakho, izimfanelo zakho zomuntu siqu. Lokhu kuhlela kabusha akuyona imilingo; kuyisayensi yezinzwa esetshenziswa empilweni yakho yansuku zonke, futhi elinye lamathuluzi ayisihluthulelo okukufeza... impilo yokuzinikela.
Enye insika yalezi zindinganiso eziphefumulayo inkolelo ejulile yokuthi wanele.UMarisa Peer ugcizelela ukuthi umcabango ophindaphindwayo othi "Angikwanele" ulimaza umbono wakho ngakho konke onakho: uma ungalokothi uzilinganisele emehlweni akho, akukho lutho olufinyelelayo oluyoke lubonakale lwanele. Uma uqala ukucabanga ukuthi "Ngingokwanele njengoba nginjalo, noma ngithuthuka," kushintsha ngokuphelele isisindo osinikeza kulokho osekuyingxenye yempilo yakho kakade.
Ugibe lokugxila kuphela kulokho okungekho
Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi sekwenzekile kuwe: uthola izincomo eziningana ngosuku, kodwa ubhajwa ekugxekweni okukodwa.Akuyona iphutha lomuntu siqu; yindlela ubuchopho bomuntu obuxhunywe ngayo. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ukucwasa okungekuhle: izinto ezingathandeki, ezibuhlungu, noma ezisongelayo zithinta kakhulu inkumbulo nemizwa kunezinhle.
Abacwaningi abanjengoPaul Rozin bachaze lesi simo ngokuningiliziweNgokombono wokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukuqaphela izingozi kwandisa amathuba ethu okusinda. Inkinga ukuthi manje "i-alamu yakho yangaphakathi" ibangelwa ukuphawula ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, umthethosivivinywa, ukubambezeleka, noma isenzo osichaza njengokwenqatshwa, noma ngabe kungekho ngozi yangempela ngemuva kwaso.
Uma ukugxila kwengqondo yakho kuqondiswa njalo kulokho okungekho —kuya emalini ongakayitholi, umzimba ongenawo, ubudlelwano obuhle obungakafiki, ukuqashelwa okungekho muntu okukunikezayo—akunakwenzeka ukuzizwa wanelisekile. Njengoba uMarisa Peer esho, lokho okucabangayo nokukholelwayo kunquma indlela ozizwa ngayo nalokho ogcina ukukufeza; uma isisekelo sakho siwukuntuleka, konke kuzobonakala kunganele.
Ukuphila uvaleleke kulowo mqondo kunezindleko ezinkulu ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba.Izifundo ngokucindezeleka zikhombisile ukuthi ukugxila njalo ezintweni ezimbi kwandisa amazinga e-cortisol, i-hormone yokucindezeleka. Amazinga aphezulu e-cortisol isikhathi eside aphazamisa ubuthongo, abuthakathaka amasosha omzimba, akhubaze inkumbulo, futhi akushiye uzizwa ukhathele njalo.
Abantu abanjengoWilliam James sebevele baveze ukuthi isikhali esikhulu kunazo zonke sokulwa nokucindezeleka Kuyikhono lokukhetha umcabango owodwa kunomunye. Lokhu kukhetha okuqondile akusho ukuphika izinkinga, kodwa kunalokho ukunquma ukungagxili kuphela ohlangothini olumnyama lwesimo. Uma uqala ukwethula imicabango yokubonga, ukwazisa, kanye nomqondo wokuthi "ezinye izinto sezivele zisebenza empilweni yami," ibhalansi yakho yangaphakathi iyabuyiselwa.
Inala yangempela izalwa ngaphakathi
Kunomqondo onamandla ophindaphindwayo ezingxoxweni eziningi kanye nasekuzindleni kochwepheshe ekukhuleni komuntu siqu.Inala yangempela ayilinganiswa kuphela ngezinombolo ezisebhange noma impumelelo ebonakalayo, kodwa nekhono lakho lokuzizwa uphelele ngisho nalapho impilo ingaphelele.
Amazwi anjengelikaJuan Lucas Martín agcizelela lokhu kuceba kwangaphakathiNgokwale ndlela, funda ukubonga ngalokho osekukhona kakade —umzimba wakho, ubudlelwano bakho, amathuba owake wawathola, lokho okwaziyo ukukwenza, ngisho nezifundo ezinzima— kuyisiqalo sokuyeka ukuphila ngenxa yokuntula bese uqala ukuzwa umuzwa ozinzile wokwaneliseka.
Uma ubonga ngaphakathi, uyayeka ukuphila ngendlela yokuthi "akwanele".Lokhu akusho ukuthi awufuni ukuthuthukisa izimo zakho, kodwa kunalokho uyeke ukugxila kokuthi "Ngizojabula uma....". Ukubonga kwenza isikhathi samanje sibe yindawo yokuhlala futhi kunciphisa ukukhathazeka kokuphishekela umgomo olandelayo njalo njengokungathi impilo yakho incike kuwo.
Lo mbono wobuningi bangaphakathi uhambisana nomqondo wokuthi usuvele wanele.Uma ungazizwa ubalulekile ngenxa nje yokuphila kwakho, uzozama ukugcwalisa leso sikhala ngokuthenga, ubudlelwano, iziqu, noma izinto ozithandayo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, uma isisekelo sakho sithi "Ngiyigugu njengoba nginjalo," konke okuvela ngaphandle kuzwakala njengebhonasi, hhayi njengento ebalulekile.
Ngakho-ke, isimemo siwukusuka empilweni eqondiswa ukuntuleka —“Anginakho, angikwazi ukufinyelela, ngiyantula”—empilweni eqondiswa ukubonga nokwazisa: “yilokhu enginakho, yilokhu okusebenzayo, nalokhu kufanele ukubongwa.” Kusukela kuleyo ndawo yangaphakathi, izinqumo zikhululekile, ukuqhathanisa kunesisindo esincane, futhi inhlalakahle iyayeka ukuba buthakathaka kakhulu.
Amandla okuguqula ukubonga
Phakathi kwawo wonke amathuluzi atholakalayo okushintsha indlela yakho yokuphila, ukubonga kungenye yezinto ezilula nezinamandla kakhulu.Akudingi izinsiza eziningi noma isikhathi esiningi, kodwa imiphumela yakho iyabonakala endleleni ocabanga ngayo, indlela ozizwa ngayo, kanye nendlela oxhumana ngayo nabanye.
Ukubonga kudlulela ngalé kokumane uthi “ngiyabonga” ngenxa yenhlonipho.Kuyisimo sokwazisa ngempela izinto ezinhle empilweni yakho, noma zingabonakala zincane kangakanani: umyalezo onomusa, ukudla okumnandi, umbhede okhululekile, intambama yokuhleka, umzuzu wokuthula. Kushintsha ukugxila kwakho kulokho okuntulekayo kuye kulokho okukhona.
Isayensi ibilokhu iqinisekisa lokho ukuhlakanipha okudumile osekusola kakade.Abantu abasebenzisa ukubonga bavame ukubika inhlalakahle engokomzwelo, impilo engcono yomzimba, kanye nobudlelwano obunempilo. Izifundo eziningana zibonisa ukuthi lo mkhuba unciphisa i-cortisol, wandisa i-serotonin kanye ne-dopamine—ama-neurotransmitter ahlobene nenjabulo kanye nesisusa—futhi uthuthukisa ikhwalithi yokulala.
Empeleni, ukubonga kusebenza njengokuhlikihla okuvuselela ubuchopho.Uma uqeqesha ingqondo yakho ukubhalisa okuhamba kahle, udala izindlela ezintsha ze-neural ezenza kube lula ukuqonda okuhle nokungokoqobo. Usazibona izinkinga, kodwa azisenawo wonke u-100% wesikhala sakho sengqondo noma zichaze ubuwena bakho bonke.
UMarisa Peer ugcizelela ukuthi, uma uzitshela ukuthi usuvele wanele, lokhoUqala ukubona inqwaba ezungezile ngokucacile. Lokhu kuzikhulumela okuhle kanye nokubonga kuyaqinisana: ukubonga ngalokho onakho kuqinisa ukuzethemba kwakho, futhi ukuzizwa ubalulekile kwenza kube lula ukubona izizathu ezengeziwe zokubonga.
Amasu alula okuhlakulela ukubonga nsuku zonke
Ukufaka ukubonga esimisweni sakho akudingi izinguquko ezinkulu.Izenzo ezincane nje, ezihlala njalo ezikhumbuza ingqondo yakho, kaninginingi, ukuthi impilo yakho akuyona nje izinkinga nemisebenzi elindelekile.
Ithuluzi elivamile yincwadi yokubongaKuhilela ukunikela imizuzu embalwa nsuku zonke—isibonelo, ngaphambi kokulala—ekubhaleni phansi izinto ezintathu noma ngaphezulu ozibongayo ngazo. Akudingeki kube impumelelo enkulu: ikhofi elithule, ingxoxo nomngane, ukuhamba, umbono ofike kuwe, isenzo somusa, ubuhlungu obunciphile.
Enye indlela enamandla ukuhlanganisa ukubonga nokucabanga.Esikhundleni sokuya ku-autopilot, ukhetha izikhathi ezithile zosuku ukuze ume futhi uzizwele ngempela lokho obhekene nakho: ukunambitheka kokudla kwakho, amanzi eshaweni, ukukhanya okuphuma ngefasitela, ukuhleka komuntu oseduze nawe. Lokhu "kuhlaba ikhefu okuqaphelayo" kuqinisa umuzwa wokuthi impilo yakho igcwele imininingwane eyigugu.
Ukubonga abanye nakho kuyandisa imiphumelaUkuthi "ngiyabonga" ubheke othile emehlweni, ukuthumela umlayezo wokubonga into oyithandayo ngaye, noma ukubhala phansi ukuthi kungani ubonga abantu abathile kuqinisa izibopho futhi kuthuthukise isimo sengqondo esikuzungezile.
Uma ufuna ukuya phambili kancane, ungahlanganisa ukubonga kanye nokuqinisekisa okuhle.Isibonelo, phinda imishwana efana nokuthi “Ngiyabonga ngalokho enginakho kakade empilweni yami” noma “Namuhla ngikhetha ukubona ukuthi yini esebenzayo” njalo ekuseni ngenkathi uphefumula kakhulu. Kuyindlela elula yokuqala usuku ngokukhumbuza ingqondo yakho lapho ufuna ukugxila khona ukunaka kwakho.
Ukuqhathanisa, izinkundla zokuxhumana, kanye nenganekwane yokuphila okuphelele
Esinye seziphazamisi ezinkulu zenjabulo namuhla ukuqhathaniswa okuqhubekayoSivula amafoni ethu, futhi ngemizuzwana embalwa, sibona izimpilo ezibonakala ziphelele: uhambo olungavamile, imizimba eqoshiwe, imibhangqwana ejabule phakade, imisebenzi emangalisa. Umphumela uba ukuthi impilo yakho, enezinsuku zayo ezijwayelekile kanye nezikhathi zayo ezibuhlungu, ingabonakala ingabalulekile.
Imithombo yezokuxhumana ikhulise isifiso somuntu sasendulo kakhuluUkuziqhathanisa nokwazi "ukuthi simi kuphi" maqondana nabanye. Inkinga ukuthi manje asisaziqhathanisi nalabo abaseduze nathi, kodwa siqhathanisa nezinkulungwane zabantu abaveza inguqulo yezimpilo zabo ehlelwe kahle futhi ehlungiwe kakhulu.
Izifundo eziningana zithole ukuxhumana phakathi kokusetshenziswa kwenethiwekhi okunamandla Futhi amazinga aphezulu okukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, kanye nokuzethemba okuphansi, ikakhulukazi uma kuhilela ukusetshenziswa okungenamsebenzi: ukubuka, ukuqhathanisa, kanye nokungaxhumani ngamabomu. Kufana nokuchitha usuku lonke ubheka efasiteleni lesitolo lapho abanye abantu becabanga ukuthi baphelele khona.
Ochwepheshe bengqondo nemizwelo baveza ukuthi lokhu kuqhathanisa akulungile neze.Uqhathanisa impilo yakho yonke—nokungabaza kwayo, ukukhathala kwayo, izinsuku zayo ezimbi—nezikhathi ezinhle kakhulu zabanye ezikhethwe ngokucophelela. Awuboni ukwesaba kwabo, amaphutha abo, izingxabano zabo, ukungazethembi kwabo; kuphela ubuso obungabonakali.
Njengoba ababhali abanjengoMarisa Peer besho, kuyohlala kukhona umuntu obonakala enokuningiImali eyengeziwe, impumelelo eyengeziwe, ubuhle obengeziwe, abalandeli abengeziwe. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi awunalutho olutheni. Lapho ukuzethemba kwakho kuyeka ukuthembela kulowo msebenzi ongenakwenzeka, ukuqhathaniswa kulahlekelwa ubuthi bawo.
Amasu okuzikhulula ekuqhathanisweni nasekucindezelweni komphakathi
Ukuqhathanisa ngeke kunyamalale ngokuphelele, kodwa ungafunda ukukuphatha. ukuze kungalawuli impilo yakho noma konakalise imizwa yakho njalo uma ungena kunethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu.
Isinyathelo sokuqala ukubukeza ubudlelwano bakho nezinkundla zokuxhumanaUnganciphisa isikhathi sakho sokusebenzisa nsuku zonke, ugweme ukungena uma usengozini enkulu (ukhathele, udabukile, uthukuthele), futhi uhlanze uhlu lwakho olulandelayo ukuze ugcine ama-akhawunti akuphefumulela ngempela noma anikeza okuthile okuwusizo, esikhundleni salawo avusa umona noma imizwa yokuzenyeza.
Ukuzijwayeza ukuqinisa ukuzethemba kwakho nakho kuyindlela enamandla yokwelaphaUkuphindaphinda imisho efana nokuthi “Ngingowanele,” “impilo yami inenani ngisho noma ingaphelele,” noma “Angidingi ukuziqhathanisa ukuze ngizizwe ngibalulekile” kusiza ukuhlela kabusha ingxoxo yangaphakathi evuselelwa lapho ubona ukuphelela okucatshangelwayo kwabanye.
Elinye isu eliwusizo ukuhlela izikhathi zokunqanyulwa ngokuphelele kwedijithaliBeka eceleni izinsuku noma izikhathi ngaphandle kwezokuxhumana nabantu, ongazinikela emisebenzini ekuxhumanisa nawe: ukufunda, ukuhamba, ukuzivocavoca, ukupheka, ukuzindla, ukuhlangana nabantu ubuso nobuso. Uma impilo yakho yangempela igcwele, kulapho ishiya khona isikhala esincane sokucabanga ngokuphila kwabanye abantu okubonakalayo.
Okokugcina, kubalulekile ukufunda ukwazisa ukuhluka kwakho.Ukwenza uhlu lwamandla akho, izindinganiso zakho, nezinto ozenza kahle—noma ngabe zibonakala zincane—kukukhumbuza ukuthi awukho lapha ukuzokopisha indlela yomunye umuntu, kodwa ukuzakhela eyakho. Njengoba u-Oscar Wilde eshilo, ekugcineni, ukuba nguwe kuphela ongakhetha okusimeme: zonke ezinye izindima sezivele zithathwe.
Ukucabanga: ukuhlala esikhathini samanje ngaphandle kokulibazisa injabulo
Emphakathini ohlonipha umkhiqizo futhi "oqhubekela phambili," ukuma kancane ukuze ube khona kubonakala sengathi kuyisenzo sokuvukela.Nokho, konke kusikisela ukuthi injabulo ehlala njalo yakhiwa kulezo zikhathi zokuba khona ngokugcwele, kunokuba kube semigqeni emikhulu ephawula ikhalenda.
Ukuqaphela, noma ukunaka okugcwele, kuqukethe lokho kanye.Ukubuyisela ingqondo yakho esikhathini samanje, ukubuka okwenzekayo—ngaphandle nangaphakathi kuwe—ngaphandle kokwahlulela, ngaphandle kokuzama ukukushintsha ngokushesha. Kumayelana nokuyeka okwesikhashana ukukhathazeka ngalokho okwenzekile kanye nokulindela kwalokho okungase kwenzeke.
Ucwaningo oluvela eHarvard University lukhombisile ukuthi izingqondo zethu ziyazulazula cishe ingxenye yesikhathiFuthi ukuthi lolu hlobo lokuzulazula luvame ukuhlotshaniswa nezinga eliphansi lenjabulo. Ngamanye amazwi, ngokomzimba usendaweni eyodwa, kodwa ngokwengqondo usendaweni ethile, futhi lokho kukuvimbela ekujabuleleni okwenzekayo ngempela kulesi sikhathi.
Ukucabanga kungaqeqeshwa ngezindlela ezilula kakhulu.: naka ngokucophelela ukuphefumula kwakho imizuzu embalwa, qaphela imizwa emzimbeni wakho, qaphela imisindo noma imibala ekuzungezile, noma udle kanye ngosuku ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, ugxile esenzweni sokudla kuphela.
Uma uhlanganisa ukuqaphela nesinqumo sokwazisa lokho onakhoKukhona okushintshayo: isikhathi samanje asisabi nje yitshe lokunyathela ikusasa elihle. Uqala ukuthola ukwaneliseka emisebenzini yansuku zonke, futhi lokho kunciphisa umuzwa wokuhlala uphishekela into engakaze ifike.
Indlela ukwazisa lokho onakho okuthuthukisa ngayo ubudlelwano bakho
Indlela obheka ngayo impilo yakho ithinta ngqo indlela obheka ngayo abantu abakuzungezile.Uma uqeqeshwe ukugxila kuphela kulokho okushodayo, cishe uzobona amaphutha, ukusolwa, kanye nokushiyeka ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Uma uqala ukuzijwayeza ukubonga ngamabomuUshintsha nendlela osebenzelana ngayo nabanye. Uyayeka ukuthatha labo abakuthandayo kalula, uqala ukuqaphela izenzo zabo, ukusekela kwabo, ukuba khona kwabo, futhi kuba ngokwemvelo ukukhombisa ukubonga kwakho.
UMarisa Peer uveza ukuthi ubudlelwano obuningi buyawohloka Ngoba ukunaka kakhulu lokho omunye umuntu akwenzayo okungalungile kuncane kakhulu kulokho akufakayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ukhetha ukugxila ezimfanelweni zakhe, futhi umtshele lokho, kudala isimo sokwazisa esiqinisa isibopho.
UPaul McKenna uphinde agcizelele umphumela wokubonga okukhulunywe ngakhoNjalo uma uthi "ngiyabonga" ngobuqotho noma uqaphela umzamo wothile, udala umbuthano wamandla amahle athinta omunye umuntu kanye nesimo sakho sengqondo.
Lokho kushintsha kombono kuhambisana nesisho sikaMaya Angelou esidumile ngendlela abantu abangalokothi bakhohlwe ngayo indlela obenze bazizwa ngayo. Ngokubazisa ngempela labo abasempilweni yakho nokwenza ngendlela efanele, ubudlelwano bakho buyafudumala, buqine, futhi buyanelisa kakhudlwana.
Ukuzivocavoca okusebenzayo kokuqala ukuphila nomphefumulo namuhla
Ukusuka emfundisweni kuya ekusebenzeni yikho okuguqula le mibono ibe ushintsho lwangempela.Akudingeki kube okuphelele; qala nje ukwethula izenzo ezincane njalo.
Ukuzivocavoca kokuqala ukwenza uhlu lokubonga komuntu siquBeka eceleni imizuzu engaba yi-10 bese ubhala phansi konke okubalulekile empilweni yakho: izimfanelo zakho, izifundo ozifundile, ubudlelwano, izinto ezenza usuku lwakho lube lula, amathuba owake waba nawo, kanye nezinsiza zangaphakathi ezikusize waphumelela. Uma ucacile kakhulu, umphumela uzoba namandla kakhulu.
Ukuzivocavoca kwesibili kuhlobene nengxoxo yakho yangaphakathi.Ungakhetha umusho okuqinisa umqondo wokuthi wanele—isibonelo, “Nginanele njengoba nginjalo, ngisho noma ngithuthuka”—bese uwuphinda kaningana ngosuku, ngokuzwakalayo noma buthule. Ekuqaleni kungase kuzwakale kungavamile, kodwa ngokuphindaphinda kuzongena.
Ukuzivocavoca kwesithathu okuwusizo kakhulu ukwenza ukubuyekezwa okufushane kwamasonto onke.Kanye ngesonto, zibuze: Yini ehambe kahle kulezi zinsuku ezimbalwa ezedlule? Yiziphi izikhathi ezingenze ngazizwa kahle? Yini engiyifundile? Yini engisayiqakathekisayo ngempilo yami njengamanje? Lokhu kuzindla kukusiza ukuthi ungakhohlwa intuthuko kanye nezikhathi ezinhle.
Kuhle futhi ukubukeza indlela ozibekela ngayo imigomo yakho.Esikhundleni sokuzibekela imigomo emikhulu nekude kuphela, yihlukanise ibe yizinyathelo ezincane, ezingafinyeleleka ongaziqeda ngayinye ngayinye. Impumelelo ngayinye encane iba yithuba lokwazisa kokubili umzamo wakho kanye nentuthuko oyenzile.
Gubha impumelelo encane bese uphila usuku ngalunye ngesikhathi.
Enye yezindlela eziqondile kakhulu zokuziqeqesha ukuze uqonde lokho onakho Kumayelana nokufunda ukugubha ngisho nentuthuko encane. Akukhona mayelana nokwenza iphathi yakho yonke into, kodwa mayelana nokungasazithathi kalula izimfanelo zakho.
Ungalandela izimpumeleloDala ijenali lapho ungaqopha khona impumelelo yakho, izinqumo ezinesibindi, imikhuba oyigcinile, kanye nezimo ezinzima oye wazisingatha kangcono kunangaphambili. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzokwakha uhlobo oluthile lomlando wamakhono akho.
Ukuzivuza ngokuqonda nakho kuqinisa lo mqondoNgemva komzamo omkhulu, zinike isikhathi sokuzinakekela: ikhefu, uhlelo obulokhu ufuna ukulwenza, into oyithandayo. Akuyona into eyenzeka ngenkani; kuyindlela yokuthumela engqondweni yakho umyalezo wokuthi umsebenzi wakho nokubekezela kwakho kufanelwe ukuqashelwa.
Ukuphila usuku olulodwa ngesikhathi kusiza kakhulu ukugwema ukuzizwa ucindezelwe yikho konke okushodayo.Ungazibuza ekuseni, "Yiziphi izinto ezintathu ezilula ezingenza usuku lwanamuhla lube lufanele?" bese kuthi ekugcineni kosuku ubuyekeze ukuthi ngabe zikhona yini. Ngale ndlela, uletha ukwaneliseka esikalini samahora angama-24, hhayi nje kuphela kwesamisebenzi emikhulu.
Izindinganiso zomphefumulo zokuphila okujabulisayo zakhiwe emibonweni emishaYazisa lokho onakho, bonga ngalokho okusebenzayo, ziphathe ngenhlonipho eyengeziwe, futhi uyeke ukuphishekela ukuphelela okungenakufika. Lapho le ndlela yokubona izinto iba umkhuba, impilo iyonke izizwa iphileka kakhudlwana, inomusa, futhi yanelisa kakhulu.
