El Uthando luyinto eyenzeka emhlabeni wonke okube yisihloko sokuhlaziywa okuvela emikhakheni eminingi: ifilosofi, i-psychology kanye ne-neuroscience baye bazama ukuchaza nokuhlukanisa izinhlobo ezahlukene zothando ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kusukela eGreece Yasendulo kuze kube namuhla, lo muzwa uhlukaniswe ngezigaba ezahlukene inhloso yokuqonda ama-nuances ayo kanye nendlela okuthonya ngayo ukuphila kwethu. Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola izinhlobo eziyinhloko zothando eziphakanyiswe izifundo nezithiyori ezahlukene.
Sizofunda mayelana ezahlukene izinhlobo zothando Ngokusho kwengqondo yesimanje, ithiyori engunxantathu kaSternberg yothando, umbono wamaGreki asendulo ngisho nokuhlaziya okusekelwe ezilimini ezingaphezu kuka-50. Thola ukuthi uhlobo ngalunye lothando luthonya kanjani ubudlelwano bethu nokuthi ungabubona kanjani empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.
Izinhlobo zothando ngokusho kwengqondo
Emkhakheni wezengqondo, kuye kwatholakala izinhlobo ezahlukene zothando ezingase zibonakale empilweni yakho yonke. Ngamunye wabo umele indlela ethile ye ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo, ezithintayo noma ngisho i-physics nabanye abantu.
1. Uthando Olujulile (Eros)
Lolu hlobo lothando lubonakala ngokuthi a ukukhangwa okukhulu kanye nesifiso esinamandla somzimba nesomzwelo. Kuvame ukutholakala ezigabeni zokuqala zobudlelwano futhi kumakwa yi- ukushuba kokungena othandweni. Lesi sici sothando sihlobene ngokujulile ne chemistry yothando lokho kusiholela ekuxhumaneni nomunye umuntu ngendlela eyingqayizivele.
2. Uthando Lobungane (Philia)
Kuwuthando olusekelwe ku ubungane, ukwethembana kanye nothando lukaplatonic. Kubonwa ebunganeni obujulile nasezibophweni ezakhiwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lolu thando luyisisekelo ekuphileni kwethu komphakathi, njengoba lusinikeza ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kanye nobudlelwane. Ukuhlaziywa kwe- izinhlobo zemizwa Kungasiza futhi ukuqonda indlela lolu thando oluzibonakalisa ngayo ebunganeni.
3. Uthando Lomndeni (Storge)
Igxile othandweni nasekujwayeleni. Isibopho esingokomzwelo esikhona phakathi kwabazali nezingane, izingane zakubo noma izihlobo eziseduze. Lolu hlobo lothando luzibonakalisa ngokuxhumana kwemvelo nokunakekelana esinakho komunye nomunye. esibathandayo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyathakazelisa ukucabanga ukuthi lolu thando lomndeni luhlobana kanjani nezinye izinhlobo zothando ezimpilweni zethu. Yazi izinhlobo zothando ezisebhayibhelini ingakhulisa ukuqonda kwethu lobu budlelwano.
4. Uthando Olungenamibandela (Agape)
Uthando ukuzidela nokuzidela lapho inhlalakahle yabanye iza kuqala kunanoma yini enye. Ihlotshaniswa ne uthando lwabazali ngezingane zabo noma ngokuphana. Lolu hlobo lothando lubonakala ezenzweni zokuzidela ezifuna okuhle kwabanye.
5. Uthando Oludlalayo (Ludus)
Uthando lokudlala, olubonakala ngokuthi ubumnandi nokuntuleka kokuzibophezela. Kuvamile ebudlelwaneni obuvamile kanye nokudlala ngothando ngaphandle kokulindela okuningi. Lolu hlobo lothando lukuvumela ukuthi uhlole ukuxhumana ngaphandle kwezibopho ezijulile zemizwa.
Kwabanye, uthando lokudlala ingashintsha futhi iguquke ibe amafomu abucayi kakhulu. Eqinisweni, ukuguquka kusuka othandweni lokudlala kuya othandweni i-agape Kungaba uhambo oluhehayo oluya ezimpilweni zothando zabantu.
6. I-Pragmatic Love (Pragma)
Lolu thando luyasebenza futhi lunengqondo, lusekelwe ku Compatibilidad futhi i izinzuzo ezifanayo. Kuvamile ebudlelwaneni obuhlala isikhathi eside lapho amanani okwabelwana ngawo ebekwa phambili. Yilapho i- Ukuxoxisana nokuqondana dlala indima ebalulekile ekwakheni ubudlelwano obuqinile. Singathola futhi ukuhlukaniswa kwe izinhlobo ze-quartz okubonisa ukwehlukahlukana kobudlelwano kanye nezici zabo.
7. Obsessive Love (Mania)
Uthando oluphawulwa ngokuba nezinto, ukuncika ngokomzwelo futhi i umhawu. Kungase kungalingani futhi kuholele ekuguquguqukeni okungenampilo ebudlelwaneni. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela lolu hlobo lothando ukuze ugweme ukuwela emaphethini anobuthi angathinta inhlalakahle yomuntu ngamunye kanye nobudlelwano.
8. Uthando Oluphelele
Ngokusho kwemfundiso kanxantathu kaSternberg, lolu hlobo lothando kuhlanganisa ukusondelana, uthando nokuzibophezela, kubhekwa njengothando olufanele noluphelele. Ukuqonda lolu thando olufanele kungasiza imibhangqwana isebenze ebuhlotsheni babo futhi ithuthukise a isibopho esiqinile.
Uthando ngokwefilosofi yamaGreki
AmaGreki asendulo athuthukisa ukuhlukaniswa kwawo kothando ngokusekelwe ezigabeni ezinhlanu eziyinhloko:
- Eros: Uthando lothando nolunothando.
- Philia: Uthando olusekelwe ebunganini nasekusondelaneni.
- I-Agape: Uthando olungenamibandela nolungenangqondo.
- isitoreji: Uthando phakathi komndeni noma obathandayo.
- I-Philautia: Ukuzithanda nokuzethemba.
Ukuqonda lezi zincazelo kungacebisa umbono wethu wothando nendlela oluzibonakalisa ngayo ezimweni ezehlukene zomphakathi. Kuwo wonke umlando, i- umdwebo we-romanticism ithwebule eziningi zalezi zinkulumo zothando, ebonisa ukujula kanye nolwazi oluhlukahlukene lothando lomuntu.
Ithiyori engunxantathu yothando
URobert Sternberg, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika, uhlongoze inkolelo-mbono engunxantathu yothando, esekelwe ezingxenyeni ezintathu ezibalulekile:
- Ukukhathazeka: Isifiso nokukhangwa ngokomzimba.
- I-Intimidad: Ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo nokusondelana.
- Ukuzibophezela: Isinqumo sokugcina ubudlelwano isikhathi eside.
Kuye ngenhlanganisela yalezi zakhi, USternberg uhlonze izinhlobo eziyisikhombisa zothando, njengothando lothando, uthando lomngane, noma uthando olungenalutho. Lokhu kuhlukaniswa kusisiza ukuba siqonde kangcono ubudlelwano bethu kanye namandla okungenzeka akhona kuwo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlolisisa uhlobo lothando nakho kusiholela ekubeni sicabange ngethonya lolo izinhlobo zezinhlobo zomculo ebudlelwaneni bethu, kusukela Umculo udlala indima ebalulekile ekukhulumeni kanye nolwazi lothando.
Ezinye izindlela zamasiko othandweni
Ucwaningo lwakamuva luhlaziye ngaphezu kwalokho Izindlela eziyinkulungwane zokukhombisa uthando ngezilimi ezingama-50 futhi waphetha ngokuthi kunezinhlobo okungenani ezingu-14 ezihlukahlukene zomuzwa wothando. Lokhu kubandakanya:
- UMeraki: Uthando lokuhlangenwe nakho nemisebenzi.
- I-Paixnidi: Uthando oludlalayo noludlalayo.
- Ananke: Uthando olumiselwe, oluhlobene nothando ekuqaleni kokubona.
- I-Koinonia: Uthando lwesikhashana nolwesikhashana.
Ukuqonda izinhlobo ezahlukene zothando kusivumela ukuhlonza kangcono imizwa yethu nobudlelwano. Kusukela othandweni oluvuthayo kuya othandweni phakathi kwabangane, uhlobo ngalunye lwalo lusibonisa ingxenye ehlukile yemvelo eyinkimbinkimbi yothando lomuntu.
