Sivame ukuthatha kalula ukuthi lokho esikubonayo okuwukuphela kweqiniso elingenzekaKodwa-ke, lokho esikubiza ngokuthi "iqiniso", ngezinga elikhulu, kuyincazelo: isakhiwo esidalwa ubuchopho bethu ngengxenye encane kakhulu yolwazi olutholakalayo futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, esidlula ezinkulungwaneni zezihlungi zomuntu siqu.
Uma siqala ukuqaphela lokhu, siyaqonda ukuthi Asikwazi ukushintsha njalo okwenzeka kithi, kodwa singashintsha indlela esikubheka ngayo.Futhi kulapho-ke kukhona amandla eqiniso: ekufundeni ukusondela kulokho esikuzwayo, esikucabangayo, nalokho esikuzwayo ngendlela ehlukile, ukuyeka ukuhlupheka ngokungadingekile bese siqala ukuzihlanganisa nomhlaba (kanye nathi ngokwethu) sisendaweni enempilo.
Kuyini ngempela ukuqonda, futhi kungani singakuboni konke okwenzekayo?
Ku-psychology, ukuqonda kuthathwa njengokungathi okuhlangenwe nakho kwezinzwa okunengqondo okuhumusha nokuhlela Ulwazi oluza ngezinzwa. Akukhona nje ukubona, ukuzwa, noma ukuthinta, kodwa mayelana nokuqonda lokho esikubonayo, esikuzwayo, noma esikuzwayo, ukukuxhumanisa nalokho esesikwazi kakade nalokho esikulindele ukukuthola.
Ukuze lokhu kwenzeke, izitho zethu zokuzwa zihlala zibhalisa okwenzekayo esizungezile, kodwa ubuchopho yibo obubhala Hlunga, hlaziya, hlunga, bese ugcwalisa izikhalaAsibona amakhamera evidiyo aqotho: singabahumushi abaqhubekayo beqiniso, futhi lokho kuhumusha kuncike ezintweni eziningi.
Lezi zici zihlanganisa isiko esakhulela kulo, lokho esakufundiswa siseyizingane, okuhlangenwe nakho esikuqongele ndawonye sesikhulile, izindinganiso zethu, okulindelwe kwethu, kanye nezinkolelo zethu ezijulile. Zonke lezi zinto zakha ndawonye izihlungi zengqondo esibheka ngazo umhlaba kakade thina ngokwethu.
Into ehlaba umxhwele kakhulu ukuthi, ngokusho kwezifundo ezahlukahlukene, ubuchopho abusebenzisi kahle ingxenye encane yolwazi lonke Lolu lwazi lufinyelela ezingqondweni zethu futhi lwakha lokho esikubheka “njengeqiniso.” Kuleli nani eliphelele, ukunaka kwethu kukhetha ingxenye kuphela, ukuze sikwazi ukuqaphela iphesenti elincane lanoma yisiphi isimo esinikeziwe. Ngaleli nani elincane ledatha, senza izinqumo, sichaze abanye, futhi sizitshele izindaba ngokuthi singobani.
Lokhu kuchaza ukuthi kungani, phakathi kwalokho esikushoyo, lokho esikushoyo, lokho omunye umuntu akuzwayo, lokho acabanga ukuthi ukuqondile, nalokho akuqondayo ngempela, Kunamathuba amaningi okungavumelani.Lokhu kusebenza nakunoma yisiphi isenzakalo: lokho okubonayo nalokho omunye umuntu akubonayo kungaba okuhluke kakhulu, yize nobabili nibhekene nesimo esifanayo.
Isibonelo somlingo: indlela ubuchopho obusikhohlisa ngayo (futhi obusivikela ngayo)
Amaqhinga omlingo ayisibonelo esiphelele sendlela ukuqonda okusebenza ngayo. Ososayensi bezinzwa abafana noSusana Martínez-Conde baye bafunda lesi sihloko futhi bagcizelela ukuthi isihluthulelo sise... ikhono lomthakathi lokuqondisa ukunaka kwethuNakuba kusenza sibheke endaweni eyodwa, okubaluleke ngempela ukwenzeka kwenye indawo.
“Imfihlakalo” yomlingo ayikho kakhulu ezandleni zomuntu okhohlisayo njengase- indlela ubuchopho bethu obucubungula ngayo ulwazi olubonakalayo futhi yakha okuhlangenwe nakho okuzimele esikubiza ngokuthi iqiniso. Lapho umthakathi ethinta isigqoko esiphezulu ngenduku yakhe futhi, ngokuzumayo, okuthile kuvela noma kunyamalale, sivame ukusungula ubudlelwano obuzenzakalelayo bembangela nomphumela: sicabanga ukuthi ukuthinta kwenduku kubangele ushintsho.
Empilweni yansuku zonke senza into efanayo ngaso sonke isikhathi: Sithola izimbangela ngedatha elinganiselwe.“Umama akangigoni, ngakho akangithandi.” “Umlingani wami akangimanganga lapho ngifika ekhaya namuhla; kumelwe ukuthi bangithukuthelele.” Siphendula isenzo esisodwa sibe ubufakazi obungenakuphikiswa bendaba yangaphakathi yonke, ngaphandle kokucabangela ezinye izinto eziguquguqukayo.
Ngakho-ke, siyayishaya indiva inhloso yomunye umuntu, umongo wakhe, lokho angase abhekane nakho, kanye nokufunda kwethu kwangaphambilini. Eqinisweni, "imbangela" yokungakhululeki kwethu akuvamile ukuba yisenzakalo ngokwaso; ngokuvamile itholakala ku incazelo esiyenzayo ngokusekelwe ezinkolelweni zethu kanye nasezindleleni ezindala zobudlelwano.
Uhlelo lwethu lokubona luhlelwe ngendlela yokubikezela: ubuchopho abugcini nje ngokusabela kulokho okwenzekayo, kodwa futhi Ilindela futhi iqedele iqiniso ngokwalokho ekulindele ukukuthola.Lokhu kusho ukuthi, ngisho noma singaqapheli, sibumba lokho esikubonayo ukuze kuhambisane nombhalo wengqondo esinawo kakade. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi, uma incazelo ingeyethu, singayibuyekeza futhi siyiguqule.
Kusukela ekuzikhohliseni kuya ekuqapheleni: siphila ekulingiseni okukholisayo kakhulu
Isikhathi eside, imibono ekhohlisayo yayicatshangwa ukuthi “iyiphutha” nje lezinzwa. Namuhla siyazi ukuthi, kunokuba kube amaphutha ahlukene, yiwona izinga lokusebenza lesistimu yokuqondaLokho esikubonayo akusona isithombe esiqondile somhlaba, kodwa ukulingisa okuqhubekayo okudalwa ubuchopho ngezinye izikhathi okuhambisana nalokho okungaphandle futhi ngezinye izikhathi okungahambisani nakho.
Singasho ukuthi, esikhundleni sokukubona kanjalo, Singochwepheshe ekudaleni imibono yokubona kanye nengqondo ngokusekelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kwangaphambilini. Siyaqaphela lokho esikubonayo ngokukuqhathanisa namaphethini asevele egcinwe enkumbulweni yethu. Lokhu kusenza, isibonelo, sikwazi ukubona ngokushesha ubuso obujwayelekile esixukwini, kodwa futhi kusiholela ekwenzeni izinto ezivamile ezingapheli.
Ezingeni le-neuroanatomical, kukhona iqiniso eliveza kakhulu: ukuxhumana okuthwala ulwazi oluvela ebuchosheni kuya emehlweni kuningi kakhulu kunalolo oluvela ku-retina luye ebuchosheni. Lokhu kubonisa ukuthi, enkambisweni yokubona, Ithonya lezinhlelo zethu zokuhumusha nokuqaphela likhulu kakhuluOkuvela ngaphandle kuhlangana nalokho ubuchopho obuvele bukulindele ukukuthola.
Lokhu kusiholela ephuzwini elibalulekile: okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu akuxhomekile kuphela kulokho okwenzekayo laphaya, kodwa futhi naku indlela esichaza ngayo okwenzekayoFuthi lokho kuhumusha kulawulwa yizinkolelo zethu zomuntu siqu kanye nezinkolelo zomndeni kanye nesimiso samasiko esivela kuso.
Ukuthemba umbono wakho ngokungacabangi, ngaphandle kokubuza noma ukuwubuyekeza, kungaba uhlobo olucashile lokuzikhohlisaSibhajwa ezinkingeni zokuziphatha, siphinda ukusabela okufanayo futhi sithole imiphumela efanayo, noma ngabe sifuna okuthile okuhlukile. Ukuze siphule lezi zinkingeni, kubalulekile ukuqaphela izihlungi zengqondo esibona ngazo umhlaba.
Ukushintsha uhlaka ngendlela enhle: ukushintsha uhlaka ukuze kushintshe okuhlangenwe nakho
Ku-psychotherapy, inqubo ebizwa ngokuthi ukuhlelwa kabusha okuhleLokhu ngokuyinhloko kuhilela ukusiza umuntu ukuba anikeze incazelo entsha ezimweni ezimbangela ukuhlupheka. Akukhona ukuphika inkinga noma ukuyigcoba ngamagama amahle, kodwa kumayelana nokushintsha umbono lapho ibhekwa khona.
Umqondo oyinhloko ukuthi umbono esiwubonayo uyasebenza njengesibonelo isihlungi esifaka umbala emizweni yethu, imicabango, kanye nokuziphatha kwethuUma leso sihlungi siqinile kakhulu futhi singesihle, konke kuyashintshashintsha ngenxa yokuphelelwa yithemba, umuzwa wecala, noma ukwesaba. Ukuhlelwa kabusha okuhle kuhlose ukwenza leso sihlungi sibe nezimo ukuze kuvele amanye amathuba.
Cabanga ngomuntu ozizwa ekhathazekile kakhulu ngesici esithile somzimba: ikhala elivelele, ukucasuka okukhulu, ubude obufushane… Ngaphandle kokusebenza ngokuzethemba kwakhe, lolu shintsho lombono lubamema ukuba bayeke ukugxila ngokweqile “kulokho abanye abazokucabanga ngami” bese beqala ukubheka ezinye izici: injabulo, ubudlelwano, ukuhlukahlukaEsikhundleni sokubona ukwenqatshwa kusengaphambili, ungazivulela umbono wokuthi umuntu ngamunye unezimfanelo ezihlukile ezimenza akhetheke.
Uma sivumela izinkolelo ezilinganiselwe ukuba zibuse umbono wethu, azigcini nje ngokusibangela ukungakhululeki, kodwa futhi Ziba izithiyo zangempela zenjabuloUkucabanga ukuthi kunendlela eyodwa kuphela efanele yokubona izinto—ngendlela yethu—kuholela ezingxabanweni eziqhubekayo, ngaphakathi nakwabanye. Ukushintsha umbono wakho kusho nokwamukela ukuthi kungaba nezincazelo eziningana eziyiqiniso zeqiniso elifanayo.
Ekwelapheni, ngezinye izikhathi sikhuluma ngokusuka "kuhlaka lwenkinga" siye "kuhlaka lwemigomo." Uhlaka lwenkinga lugxila kulokho okungalungile, okushodayo, okungalungiseki. Uhlaka lwemigomo, ngakolunye uhlangothi, lugxile ku Yini engenziwa lapha futhi manje? ukuphatha kangcono isimo, noma ngabe singenakushintshwa ngokuphelele.
Kusukela kuhlaka lwezinkinga kuya kuhlaka oluqondile: isibonelo esicacile kakhulu
Ake sicabangele umuntu osanda kuthola ukuxilongwa okuyinkimbinkimbi, isibonelo, isifo esingamahlalakhona nesiwohlokayo. Ukusabela kwakhe kokuqala kungaba ukucwila emcabangweni wokuthi impilo yakhe isiphelile, ukuthi ngeke aphinde asebenze noma ajabulele lutho. Lokho kungaba yi- uhlaka lwezinkinga: ukugxila wonke amandla engqondo ekulahlekelweni kanye nomuzwa wokuphela.
Ekungeneleleni kokwelapha, umgomo wokushintsha isimo ngendlela efanele awukona ukunciphisa ubukhulu besifo, kodwa ukusiza umuntu ukuba abone ezinye izilinganiso zeqiniso elifanayoSisebenza ukukusiza ukuthi uqonde kangcono okwenzekayo kuwe, ufunde ngezinketho zokwelapha, izinsiza zokusekela, kanye namasu okugcina ikhwalithi engcono kakhulu yempilo.
Lolu shintsho lokugxila luhlanganisa uhlaka olunenhlosoLesi sifo sisekhona, kodwa asisabhekwa njengesiphetho kuphela, kodwa futhi njengenselele engabhekana nayo ngamathuluzi aqondile. Ubufakazi bezokwelapha abushintshi; okushintshayo yindlela esibhekana ngayo naso ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo.
Ukushintsha indlela yokwenza izinto ngendlela efanele kuyingxenye yalokho okwaziwa ngokuthi i-positive psychology, okwathuthukiswa, phakathi kwabanye, nguMartin Seligman. Le ndlela ayiphakamisi ithemba elingenangqondo noma ukuphika ubuhlungu, kodwa kunalokho yandisa umbono ukuze ufake nezinsizakusebenza, amandla, kanye namathuba okungenzeka ukuthi besingakunaki.
Uma siqonda ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi asikwazi ukushintsha amaqiniso—ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, ukuhlukana, ukuxilongwa—kodwa singashintsha indlela esibhekana ngayo nawo, isikhala senkululeko yangaphakathi siyavuleka. Ngenxa yalolu shintsho endleleni yokucabanga, kungenzeka ukunciphisa ubandlululo olubi nolwenqabayoukuzola ukuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo nokucacisa ukucabanga ukuze wenze izinqumo ezivumelana nezimo.
Qeqesha amehlo akho: lapho ubeka khona ukunaka kwakho, ubeka umhlaba wakho.
Lokho esikubukayo ngokuvamile kugcina kunethonya elibalulekile indlela esichaza ngayo iqiniso nendlela esizizwa ngayoUma sikhathazeke kakhulu ngento ethile—imoto, amateki, ukukhathazeka okuthile—siqala ukukubona yonke indawo. Ingxenye yalowo mphumela ingokwengqondo, ingxenye ingokwebhayoloji: ubuchopho buyahlunga futhi bubeke phambili lokho obukubonile njengokubalulekile.
Kwenzeka okufanayo uma sigxila ezintweni ezimbi kuphela: uma sihlala sizwa izindaba zobudlova, ukugxekwa, izingxabano, noma ukwehluleka kwethu nokwabanye, ingqondo yethu ijwayela ukubona, cishe okokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu, yini engalungile, yini engekho, noma yini esongelayoAkukhona ukuthi konke okunye akukho, ukuthi nje kuthatha indawo engemuva.
Lokhu akusho ukuhlala endaweni evulekile noma ukunganaki izinkinga zomhlaba, kodwa ukufunda linganisela indlela yokubukaNjengoba nje i-inthanethi isithela ngezikhangiso zalokho esikufunile ngaphambili, izingqondo zethu nazo "ziyakhangisa" ngalokho esikuphinda njalo emicabangweni yethu. Uma siqeqesha ukunaka kwethu kulokho okwakhayo, okuhle, nokuwusizo, lezi zinto zizobonakala kalula emkhakheni wethu wokuqonda.
Kuyinqubo ehleliwe: ukukhetha ukuthi yiziphi izigcawu okufanele sizikhulise nokuthi yiziphi okufanele sizishaye indiva. Singazijwayeza ngokubuka... izenzo zomusa, imininingwane yemvelo, ukumamatheka, izenzo zokunakekela empilweni yansuku zonke. Akukhona ukuphika ukuthi ubunzima bukhona, kodwa ukungabuvumeli buthathe indawo yengqondo yabantu abayikhulu.
Ngokushintsha umbono wethu ngale ndlela, asiphili ngaphandle kweqiniso, kodwa siyayeka ukugxila ezicini ezimnyama kakhulu zokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu. Siyaqaphela ukuthi kukhona nomzamo, ubuhlakani, ubumnene, ukuqina, nokuthi Lolo hlangothi olukhanyayo lufanelwe ukunakwa kanye nendawo.Lokhu akubuqedi ubuhlungu, kodwa kushintsha indlela yokuphila kwansuku zonke.
Izindlela ezimbili zokubona: iso langaphandle neso langaphakathi
Isiko lokuzindla likhuluma “ngamehlo” amabili abantu abangabuka ngawo umhlaba. Ngakolunye uhlangothi kukhona iso langaphandleIso yilelo elibamba izimo, imibala, ukunyakaza, kanye nedatha. Yiso lokuqonda kwezinzwa kanye nelokucabanga elihlaziya, liqhathanise, futhi lihlukanise.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi i- iso langaphakathiKuhlotshaniswa nokuqwashisa, ukuzola, kanye nomuzwa wobunye. Kuyindlela yokubona engagcini nje kulokho okubonakala ekuqaleni, kodwa ebona ukuxhumana, izincazelo ezijulile, kanye nobukhulu bezinto ezizimele.
Uma lawa mehlo amabili evuleka ngendlela elinganiselayo, iqiniso liyaceba kakhulu. Asigcini nje ngokubona izinto noma abantu abahlukene, kodwa izicubu eziphilayo esiyingxenye yazoLokhu kushintsha ikhwalithi yezinqumo zethu kanye nobudlelwano bethu, ngoba asisabheki "ngaphandle" kuphela, kodwa futhi sibheka nokuqonda okubanzi.
Ukuzindla, isibonelo, kuwukuqeqeshwa okuqondile kwale ndlela yesibili yokubona. Ngokuqaphela, sifunda ukuyeka iziphazamiso, ukuqaphela imicabango nemizwa ngaphandle kokuzibamba. ukuhlanganisa lokho esikuzwayo ngaphakathi nalokho esikubonayo ngaphandleLokhu kuhlanganiswa kunomthelela ophulukisayo kakhulu Imvelo yomuntu.
Ku-psychotherapy yokuzindla, isenzo "sokubheka" sibhekwa njengokuzivocavoca kokwelapha nokwakha ukuxhumana. Lo mkhuba awugcini nje ngezikhathi zokwelapha; usetshenziswa futhi ngesikhathi sohambo, ukuphumula, ezindaweni zemvelo, kanye nasezimweni zamasiko ezahlukahlukene, lapho ulwazi lwendawo ngokwayo lukhuthaza lokhu kuxhumana. indlela yokubona eqondayo nebanzi kakhulu.
Zijwayeze ukubona izinto ngendlela ehlukile ekuphileni kwansuku zonke
Akudingeki silinde kuze kube yilapho isimo esibucayi siqala ukubona izinto ngendlela ehlukile. Kunemikhuba emincane yansuku zonke esisiza ukuthi khulula ukuqina kwemibono yethu futhi kuvuleke isikhala sokuhumusha okusha. Kufana nezikhathi "zokuqeqeshwa okuncane" zobuchopho.
Isu lokuqala yileli thatha ibangaNjengoba nje lapho sibhala okuthile futhi sikuphinda sikufunde ngosuku olulandelayo ngokucace kakhudlwana, ukuyeka inkinga kuvumela imizwa enamandla kakhulu ukuthi ihlale futhi kuvele imibono ehlukene. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuhamba, isikhathi esithile ngaphandle kokucabanga ngakho, noma ubuthongo obuhle ebusuku yikho konke okudingekayo.
Enye indlela khuluma nabanye abantuUkulalela imibono ehlukene—ngisho noma singabelani ngayo—kusisiza ukuthi sibone izici okungenzeka ukuthi asizange sizicabangele. Akukhona ukuthi wonke umuntu ucabanga ngendlela efanayo, kodwa mayelana nokuqeqesha izingqondo zethu ukuba zamukele ukuthi kungaba nokuhumusha okungaphezu kokukodwa okunengqondo kwesimo esifanayo.
Kuyasiza futhi zibeke endaweni yomunyeDlala ngezindima ezahlukene zengqondo. Uma, isibonelo, usomabhizinisi uqiniseka ukuthi iphrojekthi yakho yezenhlalo iphelele, ungacabanga ukuthi umama omatasa onesikhathi esincane nezinkinga eziningi, noma umuntu osemusha obhekene nokungabandakanywa emphakathini, angakubona kanjani. Lokhu kulingisa indima kwandisa umbono wakho futhi kwembule izidingo noma ukumelana, okungazange kuqashelwe, ngokombono wakho.
Uma siphikelela ekubukeni umhlaba ngombono ofanayo, ngobandlululo olufanayo kanye nezindlela ezifanayo zokwenza izinto, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi sihlala sifinyelela iziphetho ezifanayoUmhlaba ugcwele ezinye izindlela, futhi ikhono lethu lokuzithola lincike kakhulu ekuguquguqukeni kombono wethu.
Ukuyeka ukufuna ukuphelela nokulawula: enye indlela yokuhlobana nalokho okwenzekayo
Ukufunda ukubona izinto ngendlela ehlukile kuhilela ukwamukela into enzima: Asikwazi ukulawula yonke into noma ukwenza yonke into ipheleleSingabantu, siyawenza amaphutha, futhi umhlaba ngeke uhlale uvumelana nombhalo wethu wengqondo wokuthi izinto "kufanele zibe kanjani".
Ngokuvamile imizwa yethu iba engalingani ngoba Imicabango yethu nayo injalo.Siguqula iphutha libe yinhlekelele, ukugxekwa kube yisahlulelo sokugcina, ukubuyela emuva kube uphawu lokwehluleka komuntu siqu. Lolu hlobo lokulingisa ngengqondo alugcini nje ngokusilimaza, kodwa futhi luphambukisa umbono wethu ngeqiniso.
Ukuhlola indlela esichaza ngayo okwenzekayo akusho ukuyeka ukuzizwa, kodwa kusho ukufunda Ungagcwalisi ukuhlupheka ngezindaba zangaphakathiSingaziqeqesha ukuhlukanisa phakathi kweqiniso elingokoqobo ("lokhu kwenzekile") kanye nendaba eyengeziwe ("lokhu kusho ukuthi ngiyinhlekelele, ukuthi akekho ongithandayo, ukuthi konke kulahlekile ...").
Kunezinsiza—izincwadi, izivivinyo, izindlela zokwelapha—ezikhuluma ngqo ngale ndlela yokucabanga, eyaziwa ngokuthi ukuhlelwa kabusha kwengqondo. Kuhilela ukuhlonza imicabango ezenzakalelayo ephindaphindiwe bese uyishintsha ngezindlela ezingokoqobo nezinozwela, okusivumela ukuthi siqhubeke nokwenza ngaphandle kokunqotshwa umuzwa wecala noma ukuphelelwa yithemba.
Labo abaqala lolu hlobo lomsebenzi bavame ukuthola ukuthi, ngokushintsha lokho abazitshela kona ngokwalokho abakubonile, Indlela yakhe yokuzizwa nokwenza izinto nayo iyashintshaAkuyona imilingo, kuwukubumbana kwangaphakathi: uma indaba ingaqinile futhi ihlelwe kahle, umzimba nemizwa kuyakhululeka futhi kunendawo enkulu yokukhetha izimpendulo ezahlukene.
Ukuhlolwa "kwegorila elingabonakali" nalokho okusifundisa kona ngokunaka
Kukhona ucwaningo lwezengqondo oludumile kakhulu olwaziwa ngokuthi “igorila elingabonakali”Umdlalo ucela abahlanganyeli ukuba babale ukuthi bangaki amabhola adlulayo abanye abantu kuvidiyo. Ngesikhathi begxile kulo msebenzi, othile ogqoke njengegorilla uhamba esikrinini. Inani eliphakeme ngokumangalisayo labantu abaliboni igorilla, noma ngabe liphakathi kwesikrini.
Lolu cwaningo lubonisa izinga singayinaki imininingwane ecacile Uma ukunaka kwethu kugxile kakhulu kokuthile okuqondile, sivame ukungazi konke esikuphuthelwe. Sicabanga ukuthi sikubonile "konke" kanti, empeleni, asizange siqaphele imininingwane ebalulekile.
Uma kusetshenziswa empilweni yansuku zonke, lokhu kusikisela ukuthi izikhathi eziningi kwanele ukubheka into efanayo ngamehlo ahlukene ukuthola amathuba amasha, izixazululo ezahlukene, noma izici ezihlukile esasingazinaki ngaphambilini. Akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukusungula into kusukela ekuqaleni; ngezinye izikhathi, "ukuthola" kwangempela kuyindlela ehlukile yokubheka lokho okwakukhona kakade.
Lo mbono usebenza ezinkingeni zomuntu siqu kanye namaphrojekthi ochwepheshe, ubudlelwano, noma izinqumo zokuphila. Ukushintsha umbono—ukubuyela emuva, ukulalela abanye, ukucabanga ngezimo ezihlukile—kusenza sikwazi ukuthola izixazululo lapho ngaphambili sasibona khona iziphetho ezingapheli.
Ezweni lanamuhla eliyinkimbinkimbi nelihlala lishintsha, ukuthuthukisa leli khono kuba yinto ebalulekile. Asikwazi ukulawula izimo, kodwa singahlakulela ukuguquguquka kwengqondo ukuze sizivumelanise kangcono futhi sihlupheke kancane lapho izinto zingahambi njengoba kuhleliwe.
Ekugcineni, ukufunda ukubona umhlaba ngendlela ehlukile kusho ukwamukela ukuthi asiboni izinto njengoba zinjalo, kodwa njengoba sinjalo, nokuthi lokho ngokuguqula izihlungi zethu zangaphakathi—ukubona, ukunaka, izinkolelo, uhlaka lwengqondo— Impilo esiyibonayo nayo iyashintsha, ngisho noma izenzakalo zangaphandle zingashintshi kangako..
