hlangana nalaba izindaba ongacabanga ngazo nguJorge Bucay, ukukhombisa nokuphakamisa ukuzethemba kwakho, ngezindaba ezifuna ukugxila endleleni yakho, yonke into nokuningi kulokhu okuthunyelwe.
Yiziphi izindaba okumele ucabange ngazo?
Ziwuchungechunge lwezindaba ezifuna ukuyisa umfundi endleleni yokuzindla, azizwe engcono naye kanye nalokho okumzungezile. Liyincwadi yokuzethemba futhi enezindaba ezihlukene, ngayinye enenkokhiso ebalulekile yamandla amahle.
U-Bucay uchaza ezingxoxweni eziningi ukuthi uyaqaphela ukuthi abantu balahlekelwa uthando lwabo nokuthi kunzima kubo ukugxila emcabangweni walokho, ukuzizwa kahle ngabo. Ubeka ukuthi kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zabantu abanokunambitheka okuyingqayizivele namakhono, okwenza kungenzeki futhi kungadingeki ukubamba i-pigeonhole noma ukuzizwa emncane umuntu ngamunye ukhula ngendlela yakhe.
Uthinta igama elithi “ukuzethemba” ezindabeni eziningi nasezindikimbeni, kwesinye isikhathi ngokuqondile nangezinye izikhathi ngokungaqondile. Kunzima ngabo bonke abantu ukuzuza ukuzethemba okuphelele, kodwa akunakwenzeka.
USocrates ulandisa izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ukuthi umuntu owaziwayo ungumuntu owazi amakhono aso nokuthi ayini amaphutha aso. Lapho umuntu ekwazi, uyakwazi ukukuthuthukisa noma ukukwamukela, kwezinye izimo uSocrates uchaza ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthola injabulo ngakho.
Umbhali ubhekana nalokhu kancane, ukuze abafundi bazane futhi babone ukuthi bayizidalwa ezinobuhle neziphambeko, kodwa lokho akusona isizathu sokuzinciphisa, kodwa ukuziqhenya. Umqondo uwukuthuthukisa, ungazizwa ungaphansi kwabanye, okungabanye abantu abanemicabango ehlukene namanye amakhono.
Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala kungenakwenzeka ukuthi abantu bazuze lokho kuzithanda, kodwa akunjalo. UJorge Bucay, ngezindaba zakhe, ulwela ukuzwelana nabafundi bakhe futhi abenze bazizwe bezwiwa, kodwa futhi nokubasekela ekuphumeni emgodini omnyama abazithola bekuwo.
Indlovu eboshwe ngamaketango eTales ukuze icabange
Encwadini ethi The Chained Elephant, umlingiswa ogama lakhe lingadalulwa, uqala ukuchaza izinkumbulo zakhe kusukela eseyingane kanye nezaba nomthelela omkhulu kuye kangangokuthi wabuza izinto ezithile isikhashana. Inkumbulo yesekisi kwakuyinto eyayibuya emqondweni wakhe ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa hhayi ngenxa yama-clowns noma ama-acrobatics ahlukene ayengawabona kubo bonke ababebambe iqhaza embukisweni Wahlatshwa umxhwele into eyayingenawo umthelela ongako: indlovu.
Indlovu yayinkulu futhi, emehlweni omntwana, yayingachazwa njengomdondoshiya. Isilwane sasivalelekile, kungcono siboshwe ngamaketanga, into eyayibonakala ibuhlungu kuye, nokho, waqaphela ukuthi kukhona okwamshiya ebambe ongezansi.
Isilwane sasiboshwe ngamaketanga, yebo, kodwa sasiboshelwe ohlotsheni lwesigxobo esasingaqinisiwe kakhulu noma sasingesikhulu kakhulu, isilwane esisidonsayo sasingakwazi ukusiwisa futhi sibaleke uma sithanda. Lokhu kwamenza wabuza isimo isikhathi eside, wangayitholi indawo ayibonayo.
Kwaphela isikhathi eside ebuza abantu abanolwazi olukhulu kunaye, njengoba, ngenxa yobudala bakhe, wayengaqondi okuningi ngokuphila. Yayingekho impendulo eyayizoqeda ukumkholisa, yonke into yayibonakala iwubala noma ingenangqondo.
Bamchazela ukuthi uqeqeshiwe, kodwa uma kunjalo, kwakungeke kudingeke ukuba aboshwe ngeketanga kwakubonakala kungenangqondo noma kungenangqondo. Kwaze kwaba yilapho esekhulile wathola impendulo, bamchazela ukuthi indlovu yayingeke ibaleke ngoba wayeboshelwe kuleso sigxobo kusukela esemncane.
Wasibona ngeso lengqondo isimo wayibona leyandlovu encane izama ukubaleka, kodwa kwakungenzeki kuye, ubukhulu bayo babungamvumeli. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi indlovu yajwayela, yadela futhi ayizange ibuze noma izame ukubaleka.
Siyini isimilo?
Kule ndaba, ezindabeni ezihlukahlukene ezishukumisa ingqondo, sitshelwa ukuthi indlovu yajwayela lokho kuboshwa, kodwa ngesinye isikhathi yalwa futhi yazabalaza ngokungafani nezinye; Sahamba isikhathi wabona ukuthi akuphunyuki esimeni sakhe washona khona manje usengaphunyuka ngoba kwakungeyona indlovu encane kodwa akazange abuze isimo sakhe wahlala eboshiwe kuleyondawo.
Akwenzekanga yini kuwe lokhu? Ukuboshwa noma ukubhajwa esimweni esithathe isikhathi eside noma sesikujwayele kangangokuthi kuba nzima ukucabanga ukugqashula iketango. Kwesinye isikhathi siyabambeka bese sinquma ukuthi singaqhubeki phambili, sicabanga ukuthi ayikho enye indlela, kodwa kunalokho umkhuba wethu wokusiphuphuthekisa ukuthi singanqamuki iketango.
Ungakhula kanjani?
Indaba elandelayo igxile kithi endabeni yenkosi nengadi yayo. Inkosi yayinengadi enkulu enqabeni yayo, enezinhlobonhlobo zezitshalo nezihlahla.
Engadini kwakukhona i-oki, uphayini, umvini, i-rose kanye nama-freesias. Wabona ukuthi kukhona okwenzekayo engadini, konke kuyafa, okwamkhathaza ngoba konke kuzolahleka uma kuqhubeka kanje.
Wasondela nesihlahla se-oki, ukuze achaze ukuthi kungani sibola futhi sibonakale sifa kancane kancane. I-oki ayizange ingingize futhi yamtshela ukuthi inomona ngophayini, ukuthi njengoba ayengemude kangako, wayezizwa engelutho futhi njengoba ayengemude, wancamela ukufa kancane kancane.
Khona-ke inkosi iya esihlahleni sikaphayini ukuze ithole ukuthi kungani nayo yayifa. Uphayini wawunomqondo ofanayo nowe-oki; wacabanga ukuthi uma emude, kodwa engenalo usizo kangako, wayengakwazi ukukhiqiza amagilebhisi egatsheni lakhe, okwakumenza azizwe engafaneleki.
Wasondela ku-vid ecabanga ukuthi kuzothula, kodwa naye wafa. Njengontanga yakhe, wayecabanga ukuthi ayenele futhi kwakungabalulekile ngempela uma ekhiqiza amagilebhisi, wayefuna kukhule ama-roses kuwo, kodwa wayezozisola kanjani.
I-rose yayisesimweni esifanayo nabahamba nabo, yayikhala futhi icindezelekile, yayingafuni lutho ngaphandle kokufa. Wayenomona nge-oki, yayinamaqabunga futhi inkulu, izinkuni zayo eziyingqayizivele, esikhundleni salokho, yayikhiqiza ama-roses kuphela futhi yayincane, ingenhle njengaye.
Phakathi kwazo zonke kwakukhona i-freesia encane, yayiyinhle. Yayincane, kodwa noma yayiyinhle kangakanani, yayigcina ingadi iyinhle, Wasondela wabuza ukuthi wenza kanjani Isihlahla sika freesia sachaza nje ukuthi wayezama ukubangcono kakhulu ukuba ayefuna enye into.
Kuyini ukubonakaliswa?
Kule ndaba emnandi, yezindaba ezihlukahlukene okufanele sicabange ngazo, sitshelwa ukuthi abantu bazama isikhathi esiningi sokuphila kwabo ukuba into abangeyona noma, okubi nakakhulu, bakhale ngokuba othile noma enye into. Lokhu akudingekile, ingqikithi yazo ngayinye ihlukile futhi kufanele usebenze kukho, ukwenze kube ngcono kakhulu ngayinye ukuze kukhanye.
Inani langempela lendandatho
Indoda yayizwa ubuhlungu ngenxa yesimo sayo, yayizizwa ingenakukwazi futhi iphatheke kabi, ukuthi ukuphila kwayo kwakungelutho. Unquma ukuya kuthisha ukuze amqondise futhi ambonise indlela yokuthuthuka.
Uthisha akakwazi ukumsiza, kodwa umcela ukuba amdayisele indandatho, kodwa ngeke amukele lutho olungaphansi kohlamvu lwegolide. Wayinikeza abantu abahlukene, kodwa akekho owayezimisele ukukhokha leyo mali;
Asuke aye kuthisha amtshele izindaba ezimbi nokho athi akaye kumcwebi ukuze abone inani lendandatho. Insizwa iyahamba futhi inikezwa izinhlamvu zegolide ezingamashumi amahlanu nesishiyagalombili, nokho, uthisha wayitshela ukuthi ingamukeli noma yini enikezwayo futhi ibuye.
Umfana, elalela iseluleko sikathisha wakhe, uyabuya futhi amtshele izindaba. Uthisha uyajabula futhi uyachaza ukuthi lokhu ukuphila, ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi abantu bahlulela ukubaluleka kwezinto, kodwa kuphela umuntu owaziyo ozokwazi inani lazo langempela.
Kuyini ukubonakaliswa?
Njengabantu sinenani eliyingqayizivele, into esizame ukuyichaza kaningi kulokhu okuthunyelwe mayelana Izindaba ongazicabanga nguJorge Bucay. Ngayinye inobuhlakani bayo, nokho, asikuqapheli, ukubaluleka kwezinto.
Njengomfana, ngezinye izikhathi sibhekene nenkinga ekuphileni singazi ukuthi sibaluleke kangakanani Sicabanga ukuthi intengo incane, kodwa akunjalo. Akuwona wonke umuntu onguchwepheshe futhi owaziyo ukuthi sibaluleke ngani.
Sidinga ukuthola ongoti abazimisele ngokubona ikhono negolide esinalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sizothola othisha abazosihola endleleni yethu, basiholele kulabo bantu abazobona ukubaluleka kwethu noma abasikhumbuza ukubaluleka kwethu.
Uma ubuthanda lezi zindaba ukuthi ucabange ngazo, ngikumema ukuthi ufunde: «Ukunikeza Incwadi Yesiphepho ka-Dolores Redondo!", incwadi engaziyo ukuthi ungaba nentshisekelo kuyo futhi ozofunda kuyo.
